Why should someone be so rude
Disrespectful Colleagues: 6 Strategies for Dealing with Rude People in the Workplace
Use these 6 strategies to make disrespectful colleagues speechless!
Dealing with impolite people is an art in itself: the boss will round you up in front of the assembled team, a colleague will poke you in a meeting or an employee tries to bully you with nasty comments. Words are often lacking when you need them most.
Disrespectful Colleagues: Don't respond to rudeness with rudeness
Many people are not quick-witted spontaneously - the right answer often only comes to mind later, when the situation is long over. Then you get angry: Not only about the person who treated you disrespectfully, but also about yourself for not reacting. That's fine - not everyone has to be quick-witted. However, there are a few strategies for dealing with rude people that can be applied to a variety of situations. (Also read: Start-up: The 22 most important rules for founders in the early stage phase)
The most important thing is not to react with rudeness to rudeness. Such behavior is best combated with friendliness - this is how you save face and do not let yourself go to the level of the other person
1. Get away from disrespectful colleagues
Do not relate to other people's rude behavior, and most importantly, do not let it spoil your mood. Otherwise the loop goes on and on: someone is pushing you in traffic, you come to work in a bad mood and bawl at your colleague, who in turn takes another colleague out of a bad mood - and so on. (Also interesting: Expert explains: These 9 characteristics have self-confident men)
The fact that other people behave rude rarely has anything to do with you as a person. Therefore, do not take the behavior personally - as difficult as it may be. Do not be hit by behavior that is not only careless, but may also be used specifically to hurt or humiliate you.
2. Ignore the behavior of your disrespectful colleagues
If possible, just ignore rude behavior. No one is required to respond to a stupid remark - just walk away instead. It works better in public than at work, of course. (Also worth reading: Interview: These are the questions you should prepare for)
But even at work you have the option of not getting involved in such behavior in the first place. In many cases, instead of justifying yourself or being impolite, you can defuse the situation by ending it. Of course, just walking away isn't cheap at work, but you can kindly point out that the conversation is over or say that you will consider a comment. Of course, you can also pretend you have a meeting or a phone appointment - whichever you feel most comfortable with.
3. Let the rude coworker show up
Often you can get by with such an evasive maneuver in your job - but in other cases it stimulates the other person even more. In this case, the escape forwards helps. You can work out the sentences for this beforehand and practice it properly. Confront the other person by asking seemingly incredulous questions that relate to the situation: "Did you just really say that ..." or "Ask me if ...?" Ideally, this confuses the other person and realizes it even how it is behaving right now. (Also read: These 7 home office hacks create a productive work atmosphere)
Sometimes, however, others don't want you to say anything yourself. It is possible that the person you are talking to interrupts you while you are asking - for example by saying that you do not need to justify yourself at the moment. Do not get run over, but rather point out that you now want to finish your thoughts and that it is your turn to speak.
4. Mirror the misconduct of the disrespectful colleague
You can also address the other person's behavior directly and thus detach yourself from the situation. So you can say: “It was definitely not meant rude, but it sounds like it to me.” If you choose this option, it is best to act directly. (Also interesting: Future Leaders: An expert reveals which skills you need as a future manager!)
If you only address such a situation in retrospect, it suddenly becomes very important. If you were missing the words at that moment, consider whether the situation is really worth discussing afterwards. However, if someone regularly behaves inappropriately towards you, it is high time for a discussion.
5. Ask the disrespectful coworker what's going on
If you do not understand what is actually going on at the moment, try to clarify the situation and the background: Ask the other person how they came up with a sharp remark or how it is meant. Also ask what the other is getting at. (Also worth reading: Jeff Bezos: That's why the Amazon founder is so successful)
Sometimes such behavior is also a sign that someone is not doing well. When something is wrong, we become irritable, prone to nagging and complaining - and not everyone notices that they are doing this themselves. If you are a little closer to the other person, you can definitely ask whether everything is actually okay - preferably with a little distance from the current situation.
6. If all else fails - get support
If someone is systematically rude, you shouldn't accept that. Do not let others mistreat you permanently; step in. You shouldn't be given everything. If your own strategies don't work, don't hesitate to get support - from your manager, for example. (Also read: Four-day week: 3 advantages that will also convince your boss)
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