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15 ways to attract a good guy

Dating is hard for everyone, but there is a certain type of girl who attracts the wrong type of guy over and over again. She's the guy you often see running down her face with mascara-stained tears after she confides her heart to another asshole.

If you find yourself constantly in the position of claiming that your single status is due to a lack of good men, it is time to reevaluate why that might be so.

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Obviously, it's easier to blame the opposite sex for their inability to bond, but it's often your own behavior that leads to you dating one bad boy at a time.

We may not be able to change our surroundings or the idiots that surround us. However, we have the ability to change our behavior, our decisions, and the way we react.

Open a new chapter and open your heart to finally draw the love into your life that you have been waiting for. Here are fifteen ways to attract and keep a good guy:

1. Don't play games

You pretend you're not interested in him, but then you get mad when he doesn't call. Men are not mind readers. If you want a good guy to stay around, you have to tell him this.

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2. Instead of keeping your options open, give the guy a real chance

Between Facebook, Instagram and Tinder, we all have endless access to see what else is in the world. But if you want a new relationship to flourish, put your phone down and focus on one guy at a time.

3. Don't post pictures on Instagram that you'd rather text

You post pictures of yourself in a skimpy bikini with your ass up in the air or in your underwear to get a man's attention and yet you are shocked that he doesn't want to meet you?

Unless your job requires you to show yourself in lingerie and post about it on Instagram, then posting private, provocative pictures could make you feel insecure. If you were in a loving relationship, chances are these pictures will be saved for private conversations with your husband.

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4. Respect yourself

If you don't respect yourself how is the guy supposed to respect you? Anyone worth dating will appreciate a girl who knows her own worth and is not satisfied with anything other than the amazing.

If you're trying to find a good guy by getting drunk every night and dancing with your skirt over your head, chances are there are just idiots knocking on your door.

5. Tell him how you feel, not what you think he wants to hear

"I don't want a relationship" is what you tell him. "I wonder how long it will be before he makes it official?" Is what you are actually thinking.

If you tell a man that you don't want anything serious, he'll take it at face value. That doesn't mean you should start talking about your dream wedding and how cute your kids will be on the first date.

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However, it does mean that you should see how things develop naturally before deciding where to go in the relationship. The only way a healthy relationship can work is when the two of you are on the same wavelength.

6. Be vulnerable

It's okay to admit to a guy that you've been hurt in the past and not look for a casual connection. If that puts a guy off, then he wasn't the one for you at all. A good guy will value your feelings and it will only bring you closer together.

7. Do not compete with him

If he goes out, do you have to do it too? If he hasn't sent you a message all night, will you wait any longer to text him back? A relationship will never go smoothly if you play the dating game like an ego-driven chess game.

If you really want to be in a meaningful relationship then it is important to be open and honest without competing with your husband.

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8. Respect him and his time

Don't make plans with him and cancel at the last minute. He went out of the way to ask you out on a date, so go for it too.

Unless there's a real emergency, you should always go after the guy who cares. These are the ones you want to date, not the ones who make you crawl for their time and attention.

9. Do not punish him for the mistakes of those who came before him

Most people have been hurt in the past, but carrying these bags into your new relationship can sabotage them. For example, if your ex cheated on you and you start projecting your trust problems onto your new man because of it, you will drive him away.

Checking his phone when he's not looking, getting mad if he doesn't call back right away, or assuming he's going out to dinner with a girl when he says he's dating a boyfriend is one way the relationship can be for that Failure to be judged.

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10. Be honest with yourself

Instead of changing yourself to meet the expectations of a man you just met, embrace your individuality. A good guy will love who you really are and not the carefully constructed version of yourself that you represented to him.

When you lie about yourself in order to appear more desirable, remind yourself that the truth always has a way of getting to light.

11. If you invite him to go out with you, make him feel good

If you go to an event and invite the guy as your companion, make sure you make him feel like you want him there. No doubt he's a big boy and will make it through if you split up to hang out with friends and acquaintances for a while, but making your date feel welcome is important.

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Leaving a guy standing at a party you invited him to is a quick way to lose a good guy.

12. Be compassionate

Being nice can go a long way. If your new friend was having a tough day, instead of acting disinterestedly, show your support.

Too often we are busy looking cool and we forget the little things like being there for someone and listening, which can make the biggest difference.

13. Create new memories together instead of bringing up old ones with ex-boyfriends

Sure, we all have ex-boyfriends who meant a lot to us, but keeping them up all the time will only make the new man in your life feel uncomfortable.

If you keep talking about your exes, it will look like you're not making room for the good guy in your life, so it is likely that he won't be around for very long.

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14. Have your own life

Having your own life is an incredibly attractive quality that the good guys will bring to you. Only an insecure man will want a woman who is not doing her own thing to become dependent on him.

But the good man loves the woman who is perfectly fine on her own and who is happy with her life, regardless of whether she is single or in a relationship.

15. Be confident

If you are a confident woman then no guy will be able to treat you badly because you would never let it happen. Any bad guy you meet is most likely going to be scared of your confidence while a good guy is attracted to you and admires it.

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