How is an ENFP INTJ relationship

INTJ relationship: 15 things you need to know to decipher it

Relationships aren't always easy, but they can be. If you are in an INTJ relationship, all you need is understanding. So here is how you get along.

If you scratch your head just reading this feature because you have no idea what an INTJ relationship is, don't worry. You're not alone! Not everyone has heard this terminology.

The Myers-Briggs 16 Personality Types

INTJ is a personality type, according to the Myers-Briggs Personality Test. This test is designed to find out a person's psychological preferences, how they make decisions and how they perceive the world.

One of the women who created the test is Katherine Cook Briggs. She began doing research to understand people's personalities since 1917. Later, based on their daughter Isabel Briggs Myers, they set their personality test on Carl Jung's theory that there are four ways people experience the world: sensation, intuition, feeling, and thinking.

But the Myers-Briggs test goes beyond Jung's theory. They added many more elements, one of which is the introvert-extrovert dimension.

Introvert vs. Extrovert

I don't want to bore you by explaining all of the different combinations that make up all 16 personality types. So, I'm just going to address the difference between introverts and extroverts as most people think they know what that means.

Most people think that introverts are shy and anti-social and extroverts are open-minded and the life of the party. While that can be true, it's much more complex than that.

Yes, introverts tend to be more alone than extroverts. But that doesn't mean introverts can't be open-minded and social. Nor does it mean that extroverts never like to be alone.

It's about where you get your energy from. Do you feel energetic * extroverted * or drained * introverted * in a group of people or crowds? Introverts get charged by spending time alone. Extroverts, on the other hand, get charged when they are with people.

And then there is the little-known, rarely heard, Amiver. Basically, Ambiverts are both introverted and extroverted. I consider myself ambivious, even though I come out as an ENTJ on the Myers-Briggs test every time.

What is an INTJ?

An INTJ personality is not very common. In fact, only 2% of the population fall into this type. So if you are one yourself, or you are in an INTJ relationship, it's a rarity!

And here's another interesting fact about INTJs. There are more men who are INTJs than women. If you read on you will understand why.

Properties of an INTJ relationship

Whether you're an INTJ or have a partner * or even know * one, there are a few things that can affect relationships - for better or for worse. As with anything, the more we understand something, the happier we are. So here are some characteristics of INTJs and how they affect an INTJ relationship.

# 1 They tend to be private. When an INTJ goes out with someone like me * an ENTJ *, I might mind that they are so private. I love self-disclosure and I think that's how you build intimacy in a relationship. But because INTJs don't tell much about themselves, this could be a problem for the extroverted types.

# 2 You can be perceived as a "bookworm". Unfortunately, our cultural stereotypical books are worms and thinks they're nerdy. That's a shame because it's not necessarily true. INTJs are perceived this way because they are always in search of knowledge and deep understanding.

But if that doesn't work for you * if you are a different personality type * then you may think they are trying to avoid you by not talking to you and using reading as an escape mechanism.

# 3 They hate rules and restrictions. Hmmmm ... that could be a problem in romantic relationships, don't you think? Because, let's face it, there are rules when it comes to dating * like not cheating *. Or even rules like, Hey, give me a call. Well ... they may not like that. Yup, this is an INTJ relationship for you!

# 4 They are resourceful and curious. INTJs are very intelligent. Hence the stereotype "book work". They are either looking to understand something or to develop something new in their own minds. As you can imagine, this attention goes to a book or to their own thoughts, not always to another person.

# 5 You are crucial. Hey this is good Law? Well, maybe, maybe not. It depends on what kind of personality type you are. If they are too decided, they may not listen to your point of view. So, you have to roll them up and make sure they don't run over you.

# 6 You are ambitious. That's great too - maybe. I mean, accomplishments are great. And there are so many benefits that can come from them. But if they're so committed that they turn into a work-a-holic then you can understand what that would mean for a relationship. Enough said.

# 7 They like to share their deep knowledge with other people. Because they're so smart, deep, and always curious, sometimes they want to share this information with people. This is great if it's something you're interested in, but if not, it could be a slumber feast.

# 8 They like to master subjects. It is not enough for an INTJ to just read a short article about something and leave it at that. Once they are thirsty for something, they need to delve deep into it so that they can fully understand it and become a master on the subject.

# 9 They like to carry out plans. That too is great for achieving goals and accomplishing things in life. But maybe someone they date has a spontaneous personality and doesn't like plans. What a pity. That might not work so well.

# 10 They don't like gossip - or anything uninteresting. Do you see a pattern here? INTJ is about being deep, learning, and gaining knowledge. So why do you care about your boyfriend's boyfriend cheating on you? It's just irrelevant information to them.

# 11 You keep questioning things. Oh yeah. There's that curious mind again! You always analyze and question. Just saw a movie with you? The whole drive home will be an intellectual analysis of it. And maybe you want to scream, "It was just a f & * @ king movie! It's just entertainment ... so shut up!"

# 12 You're at a loss when it comes to romance. Oops, that's a bad thing when you fall in love with an INTJ. But if you have a big crush and don't make any moves, well, you now know why. You have many talents, but romance and relationships are not necessarily one of them. Good luck with the romantic INTJ relationship! You might need it.

# 13 They tend to be very confident. That's probably due to the fact that they're so intelligent. Being so deep and smart can make you feel "better" than other people. That doesn't mean they put others down or anything, but ...

# 14 You can be arrogant and judgmental. So ... at some point they can. They don't deliberately degrade people, but because they're so smart and knowledgeable, they may not understand why others aren't. This can make other people feel like they are arrogant or judgmental.

# 15 They like to have unorthodox ideas. Do you remember when I said they don't like rules or restrictions? Yes, that includes some mainstream ideas as well. This could mean that they are an atheist or believe in an unknown political philosophy. Because, as you know, unlike most people, they think out-of-the-box.

INTJ relationships are unique, just like most relationships. But since an INTJ is so rare, it might be more difficult to understand. But if you do - it's worth it.