How do I win back her heart

How do I get it back?

After a long search you have finally found your dream woman and are overjoyed. But at some point something happens that you didn't expect at all: It's over! But for you that doesn't mean just accepting this fact.

So the question for you is:
"How do I get it back?"

The first thing you should know is that it may not be easy, depending on the circumstances that led to your breakup.

But with the right strategy, it can work. Feelings don't go away overnight. You are still there. It just comes down to bringing them back to the surface. We'll show you how to do it!

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You will learn in this article:

  • The best tips to get them back!
  • Step-by-step instructions
  • Tricks on how to make you feel better.

You will:

  • To know you better
  • Successfully recapturing your ex

Never go haphazardly!

Every separation has a reason. Women in particular don't break up on a whim, but because something fundamental is no longer right.

Women brood for a long time and often try to change the situation themselves before they finally throw in the towel. That is why the line comes so suddenly for many men.

After the initial shock, however, it is now time to stay calm.

How do I get it back?
This is the goal to pursue for you.

However, you shouldn't lose your head. Careless, haphazard actions do not lead to the goal here.

This includes:

  • Inconsiderate messages and calls
  • Confessions of love out of desperation
  • stalking
  • Jealousy strategies
  • Put pressure on your ex
  • Becoming friends with your ex

To get it back, you'll need to come up with a plan. But you should know that this is unlikely to be as easy as you would like it to be.

It takes time to win her heart back to you. Of course, it depends on your personal initial situation.

Depending on what exactly happened, it will either be relatively quick or it will take some time. So remember, if you really want to win them back, you need patience and a plan!

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How do I get them back - do you really want this?

Especially shortly after the breakup, our feelings often go crazy. You will feel the same way.

You have no idea what to do and how to act now. In you, feelings such as anger, sadness and longing alternate regularly.

This is normal, but these mood swings prevent you from thinking clearly.

If it is actually the case that you really miss your ex and not just someone, it is actually love! Because we often mistake love for pure habit.

We have established ourselves perfectly in our relationship. It's comfortable and someone is always there when we need tenderness, love and sex.

You should be really sure about this. Otherwise, you're wasting time and energy trying to win them back.

Allow a little time to be really sure of your own feelings.

If you're not just looking for someone to warm your bed, you're good to go with your goal of getting them back!

How do I get her back - step by step back into her heart!

Now you are ready to come up with your strategy to help you win back her heart.

Internalize the individual points and follow them as best you can. Because they are extremely important.

If you make a mistake here, the chances of getting your ex back are reduced.

1. First try to clarify the problem

Misunderstandings often play a major role in a separation. If you want her back, you should definitely find out what circumstances led to the breakup in the first place.

To do this, it is important that you get into conversation with your ex.

Here you should note the following:

  • When communicating with her, you should be as calm and calm as possible. You don't want to sound desperate or even angry, or she may not want to meet you in the first place.
  • Just ask them for a factual discussion, as there are some points on your side that you would like to understand better.
  • If she agrees to meet you, it's best to meet on neutral ground. Maybe in a café or in the park. So everyone has the opportunity to simply leave if the conversation gets out of hand.
  • It is very important that you listen properly. Maybe you won't like what you hear. But it's important to know the facts so that you don't fall back into old patterns.
  • If the conversation is promising, you can indicate that you would like to try again.
No matter what their reaction is, you have to accept it and shouldn't make scenes. After all, you have a plan up your sleeve, don't you?

2. Use the contact lock

If the conversation did not lead to the desired goal, you should now use the contact block. This is about 17-21 days avoiding any contact with your ex for a long time.

In harder cases, the length of the contact lock can also differ. Take our free ex-back test to find out more.

So avoid contact, be it by phone, email, social networks or in person. During this time you really have NO CONTACT with your ex.

Yes, it's pretty difficult and requires a lot of discipline. Especially when you have the same circle of friends. You always run into each other somewhere. But you can skilfully avoid many situations.

Always remember that the contact lockout should help you win back her heart. But not only that. You too can sort out your own feelings during this time.

Maybe you don't want them back after the contact has been blocked?

Here are a few tips on how you can stick to the contact block better:

  • Don't spend too long on Facebook and CO. Because how quickly did it happen that you took a look at her profile? Check your messages and block their profile. Otherwise stay offline.
  • Delete your chat history on WhatsApp and preferably your number from your mobile phone. This way, you won't be tempted to call her at a weak moment.
  • Don't ask your mutual friends how they are doing. The best thing to do is to instruct them to simply avoid this topic.
  • Avoid certain places that you have often visited together or that you know will be there.

What if she gets in touch with you?

If she gets in touch with you while the contact is blocked, then it is best not to react at all. Unless it is about important information or documents.

Then give her what she wants. Avoid using emojis and under no circumstances get emotionally involved in this message. Only write what is absolutely necessary in these messages and otherwise ignore them.

Here's an example:

3. Get in touch again

If the contact block is over, you can contact them again and ask them to talk to you again. This is especially successful if she got in touch with you while the contact was blocked.

If she agrees, you can calmly clarify everything that stood between you and maybe actually try again with each other.

If she does not agree, it goes immediately to the next step. It is now important that you do not lose sight of your goal and do not give up hope!

4. Move on with your own life

If the new contact attempt didn't work, you will now prove to your ex that you don't need her at all.

Live your life to the fullest and show it too. Go away, show yourself at parties, have a fun evening with your buddies or get tickets to a festival.

And very important: Post your activities on Facebook and Co. They should definitely notice that you have a lot of fun in life even without them.

However, you should be careful not to post every little thing. 2-3 posts from you and your exciting endeavors are more than enough.

5. Do something for yourself

Sometimes it's just liberating to try something completely new.

Maybe a new look, a new sport or a varied hobby. It is important that you do something good for yourself.

Because if you are fine, you radiate this positive energy outwards and appear interesting to other people.

6. Run into your ex by chance

Now is the time to show more personal presence again. Does your ex go to the cinema on the weekend? Then grab your boys and go too.

Important: Don't make it seem like you're there just because of her. Say hello, but have fun, even if the two of you shouldn't get into conversation.

However, if she is looking for you, you are welcome to talk to her for a few minutes more intensively.

But be sure to be the first to end the conversation and mingle with the crowd again. If you can do that, you will be in control.

She will probably seek you more and more often and get in touch with you. This is a big step in the right direction!

7. Be patient

Clearly, this strategy is tedious and takes a lot of time. But if you are patient and wait for the right moment, nothing stands in the way of a revival of your relationship.

Mistakes that you absolutely have to avoid!

There are a few stumbling blocks you will have to avoid on your way to get them back. Because they will slow you down a lot in your project.

  • Never run after your ex! If she knows for sure that she can have you back anytime, you will only become uninteresting, boring and, above all, unattractive.
  • Don't cling! It seems very desperate.
  • Never be rude, arrogant, jealous, or reproachful at a meeting. If you display this behavior, she will withdraw.
  • Never speak ill of her in front of others. Because sooner or later she will find out and certainly not be pleased.
Even if you've made many or all of these mistakes, you can still get through to your ex! Before doing this, you should definitely take our ex-return probability test and receive your personal proposal for a solution!

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Are you smarter now?

With your project “How do I get it back”, only a sophisticated strategy can help you.

Let's summarize again what is mainly important:

  • Stay calm and collected during conversations
  • Use the contact lock
  • Get on with your own life
  • After the contact has been blocked, make sure that you run into her every now and then
  • Be patient

If you follow your plan carefully, nothing stands in the way of a happy ending. We wish you the best of luck!

Another detailed strategy that you can use to win back your ex can be found here: Ex-back strategy
Our cooperation partner Prof. Dr. Ludwig Schindler works as a couple counselor, psychotherapist, supervisor and coach in his own practice in Munich. Schindler is the author of numerous specialist publications and is one of the leading experts in couples therapy in German-speaking countries. He is the scientific director of the interactive online program