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Unhappy in your new job - stay or go?

Not every job change brings more satisfaction: Because it can also happen that you notice that the new position does not correspond to your own ideas and you are dissatisfied with it. However, it is not uncommon to be unhappy in a new job - on the contrary, as career coach Nicole Broockmann has revealed to us. What you can do when you have a new job but are not happy and helpful tips for your further career planning can be found below.

If you notice early on that your new job is not making you happy, this question arises quickly. Because the change from the old to the new job is usually not without reason and is often associated with hopes for a better position, more interesting tasks or a better working atmosphere. But if it turns out that the job is completely different than expected, doubts quickly arise and one wonders what is best to do now. The situation looks tricky and seems to be the purest killer for your career. But this is not the case. In the interview we got Career coach and applicant manager Nicole Broockmann I gave some helpful tips on what to look for when you are unhappy in your new job: how to best deal with such a situation, what you can do yourself and how satisfaction can return to your career. So it's high time to get active.

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Nicole Broockmann is the head of personnel insight. As a qualified psychologist, systemic coach and career advisor with 20 years of professional experience, she supports and advises employees competently with regard to their individual career planning.


It is no longer uncommon today to be unhappy in a new job. There can be a variety of reasons for this.

AVANTGARDE Experts: Ms. Broockmann, with 20 years of professional experience, you have a lot of knowledge in dealing with applicants and employees. In your experience, does it often happen that employees come to the conclusion that they are not satisfied with their new job?

Nicole Broockmann: My experience shows that this happens more and more often. Our time has become much faster. Candidates join a new company with a certain idea and expectation that was presented to you in the pre-selection process. They are then quite astonished that the working conditions presented do not exist.

AVANTGARDE Experts: Were you able to identify any abnormalities, how it came about or what could be possible reasons for them?

Nicole Broockmann:There can be very different reasons for this. Just to name a few:

  • Several people with different functions are involved in the preselection.
  • The requirement profile was not clearly defined.
  • Corporate values ​​and guidelines only exist on paper.

Interestingly, I have found that the higher you get on the career ladder and the more important the functions are (i.e., from middle management), the less and less concrete is talked about the actual position. Here wrong decisions are really very painful and expensive for both sides. Then it is more about company goals and strategic orientations of the respective area, less about your own person and their positioning.


Basically, you shouldn't act too quickly. Because not being completely satisfied in a new job at the beginning is more common than you might think. Here we explain when it is worthwhile to wait and what signs are that you should really change jobs.

AVANTGARDE Experts: When can you say with certainty that the new job is a mistake? How long should I give my new job a chance so as not to act rashly?

Nicole Broockmann:I think there is no fixed point in time or a specific characteristic by which you can fix that. The range of reasons is actually very subjective, it is not for nothing that they say “the chemistry has to be right”. There are the well-known 100 days in the new job that I recommend going through first. Only then should you speak of a wrong decision and start a reorientation.

AVANTGARDE Experts: In which cases is it worthwhile not to do anything and to wait?

Nicole Broockmann: Especially in the first few days, it is of course very important to “sniff” and get to know colleagues, employees and superiors. Here you should first take note of a lot. You should avoid trying to get your own point of view through too quickly. As a newcomer to another system, i.e. the new company, you should first of all have a good and well-founded picture of processes and tasks.

AVANTGARDE Experts: What are certain signs that the job doesn't make me happy and that I should change it again?

Nicole Broockmann: An inner aversion to the new job or even a resignation to be considered can manifest itself in various ways:

  1. You do not see any development opportunities in your company, i.e. further development into a different or higher position is not possible.
  2. The job is definitely underpaid (it's important to get a benchmark here).
  3. The lack of motivation just doesn't come back. The consequences are listlessness and indifference.
  4. Work makes you sick. Your body resists the job internally. Most of the time it happens unconsciously.
  5. The chemistry with superiors or the team is not right.
  6. You do not stand by your job, avoid questions or discussions in your private sphere and do not want to deal with this topic.
  7. Or you are very upset about your job in your private life and complain all the time.

AVANTGARDE Experts: What can I actively do in my situation if I am unhappy in my new job?

Nicole Broockmann: I am always a fan of open communication and I always pass this on in advice. You don't have to make life unnecessarily difficult, so it is very important to talk to your superior about your own situation. Note that it should be the line manager and not the entire workforce first. The last time your boss learns of your concerns can cause displeasure. So prepare yourself well and in a structured manner for the interview.

AVANTGARDE Experts: Do you have any tips on how to best prepare for such an interview?

Nicole Broockmann: Comprehensible examples from previous practice are always helpful in order to underpin your displeasure. So it's best to agree a strategy with fixed cornerstones (with a date) on how you can improve cooperation in the future. If these discussions do not bear fruit, you can think about a reorientation.


You have come to the conclusion that a reorientation could be useful because your new job does not make you happy at all? Then you should pay attention to the following points in order to act correctly now.

AVANTGARDE Experts: If I actually apply for another position, I want to make sure that I won't be unhappy with the new job again. What questions should I ask myself to make sure I should keep looking for a new job?

Nicole Broockmann:Basically, when you change or look for a new job, the desired goal is to be better positioned than in your current position. From my point of view, as an applicant, you now have a lot of opportunities to find out about a possible new employer, unlike in the past. You should use that. I always recommend discussing the requirements profile or the area of ​​responsibility with the HR manager or, even better, with your line manager. That is the right of every applicant. You should definitely address development opportunities, contractually relevant questions, framework conditions and the “personal characteristics” of the company and compare them with your own ideas.

AVANTGARDE Experts: How do I deal with questions about the current situation during a job interview? The person you are talking to will probably notice that I have not been in the new position for long. Do you have any tips or recommendations in this regard?

Nicole Broockmann: Here, too, the motto is, "Treat this situation honestly and openly". Be authentic in the conversation and describe your situation: what you expected back then, what framework conditions were defined and what is missing in your current job. This makes it clear why you decided to reorient yourself. In such cases, in particular, it can happen from time to time that the HR managers want to obtain references from the last employer.

AVANTGARDE Experts: Is it impossible to return to an old position?

Nicole Broockmann: No not at all. Interestingly, HR managers from the old companies are happy to accept returnees again - true to the motto “You know what you have”. Of course, this is only the case if one has parted on good terms.

Thanks to a shortage of skilled workers and demographic change, the old employers are often happy when good employees come back. However, at least two years should have passed by then, otherwise you will not appear credible to bring in new experiences and knowledge. But think carefully about why you want to switch to your previous employer. Is it out of necessity? And do you improve yourself with the new task? You should avoid going backwards.


Leaving a company is serious business that you should think twice about beforehand. If you are sure that you want to leave because your new job does not make you happy, there are still a few points that you should consider.

AVANTGARDE Experts: What should I consider if I want to cancel?

Nicole Broockmann: A termination requires thorough preparation and should be carefully considered. Of course, it must always be in writing. There are beautiful templates on the Internet that you can use as a basis and adapt accordingly. Pay attention to the respective notice periods. First, let your manager know. Even if it is sometimes difficult, I can only recommend maintaining your demeanor in a personal dismissal interview and not indulging in justifications. That can easily get out of hand and then become irrelevant.

AVANTGARDE Experts: Are there any things that I have to consider if I am given notice?

Nicole Broockmann: Basically, one or two warnings must be issued before the termination, unless there is a serious violation that leads to an extraordinary termination. The following requirements also apply:

  1. The employer must always submit a notice of termination in writing. Because only the written form applies here. Email and fax are excluded.
  2. In the event of termination, the deadlines provided must be observed. Otherwise, the general notice period of four weeks applies either to the 15th or the first of each month.
  3. If there is a works council in the company, it must be heard before the notice is given. If this has not happened, the termination is not effective.
  4. If there are more than ten employees in the company, the regulations of the Dismissal Protection Act apply. It says that a termination is only effective if it is socially justified.
  5. There is special protection against dismissal for severely disabled people, people in pregnancy and parental leave as well as trainees and works council members.

AVANTGARDE Experts: What can I do or what can I pay attention to in order not to find myself in the situation in the first place and to realize that a job is not the right one for me? Or to put it another way: What positive can I draw from this experience?

Nicole Broockmann: Reflecting on what went wrong last time is essential. Even if it is difficult, pick out exactly the points where your last employment relationship failed and analyze them carefully with the new employer. Creating a checklist can also help you not to forget anything.

We would like to thank Nicole Broockmann for the informative interview and helpful tips!


If you have a new job yourself, but are not happy with it, we recommend that you follow Nicole Broockmann's tips in order to do everything right when planning your career. If you still need help with your decision, our job change test or our guide "Make the right decisions" may also help you.

If, on the other hand, you are still in your probationary period and you want to give the job a longer chance, we have 6 helpful tips for you to survive the probationary period well.

If, after careful consideration, you come to the conclusion that you would rather change your job, we recommend you take a look at our job exchange: Here you will find numerous exciting job offers from a wide variety of companies and industries. We look forward to your visit!


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