Why did I stop enjoying food?

Eaten too much again? Why you can't stop when you're full

Do yourself a favor Forget everything you know about proper and healthy nutrition. Delete all diet rules and calorie tables from your memory.

Just briefly, let's say first while you're reading this article. If you want to know why you have already eaten too much again, this knowledge has not helped you so far.

If you are primarily concerned with WHAT you eat, you will get stuck with this question. Satisfying your feeling of hunger with the most sensible and healthy food possible is not the solution.

You eat for many different reasons: Your physical hunger is rarely the trigger.

Overeating has a powerful message. It alerts you to an imbalance in your life. It is very likely that these causes existed before overeating.

Simply put, one can say:

You use food instead of engaging in a dialogue with yourself.

Your body, your soul needs something and you respond with food. Classic misunderstanding.

How do you figure out what they need? Sit down. To listen. Communicate.

What does your unconscious hunger stand for?

What role does food have in your life?

What do you use it for

Why can't you stop eating

Ate too much? That can be behind it.

A cycle that you probably know well. Overeating is a stressful reaction and at the same time causes even more stress.

When you have eaten enough, your body has to automatically downshift, your thinking slows down and you are forced to calm down. The fuller the stomach, the more rest.

The more space you give to tension, worries and inner pressure in your everyday life, the more likely it is that you will start this relaxation program in the evening.

In the long run, you don't even have to start it yourself, it starts by itself and becomes part of your autopilot.

Eating out of control during stress is not a weakness, but the only coping strategy that is so easily and quickly available.

2 | You're a machine.

You run at full speed all day. You don't have time for breaks. Or they are short and stressful.

Your body is sending you signals that it needs something.

Quiet. Break. Recreation. Come down.

You keep plowing, tirelessly until the evening. Your tank is empty. You've been running on reserve for hours. You feel very hungry because you are physically exhausted. Instead of rest and relaxation, there is food. You catch up on everything and miss when the tank is full.

That makes you tired and shuts down your system completely. What you would actually have needed would be a slower pace in your daily routine, enough breaks and a feeling for when it's enough and you put your feet up.

Because you are not a machine, this energy requirement cannot be met with food and so the race starts all over again the next day.

3 | You want to bury that feeling.

There are feelings that have been with us for a lifetime. Even if we don't want to deal with them, they are always there as an underlying underlying mood.

I'm not right the way I am.

I am somehow not good enough.

Something is wrong with me, I'm different.

This feeling isn't buried so deep that it doesn't come up regularly and cause you trouble. You've been carrying it with you all your life. It's always there subliminally.

Because this feeling is more or less always there, it puts a strain on your self-esteem and thus influences what you experience on a daily basis and how you encounter other people.

You seem to have it on your forehead. You cannot see it yourself, but others react to it. This confirms your fears and the fears seem to be justified.

This fear usually has its origin in your family of origin, in which you did not feel as accepted as you would have liked. But you are not alone in this, it happens a lot.

The first attempt to cope with this feeling is often to compensate for it with performance. You want to prove to yourself and others that it isn't.

You want to demonstrate that you are particularly tall, strong and independent and that you are not a burden to anyone.

It's very exhausting, but it doesn't dissolve the feeling.

This is where the association with food comes into play. However, it is then unconscious. In everyday life there is nothing to suggest, it seems to be two completely independent phenomena. On the one hand the queasy feeling and
overeating on the other. But it is not.

Eating, especially when more than enough, has the side effect of keeping your body busy enough that digestion gets full attention and priority. As a result, unpleasant feelings can no longer be felt.

A kind of numbness sets in, which gives you temporary relief from your subliminal feelings.

4 | Your inner accountant fights the shortage.

Deficiency arises when you refrain from eating, not because you are not hungry, but because you want to fast. Even if you massively reduce calories, replace meals with pure fillers or eat too quickly and carelessly.

Your body takes stock internally. He has a memory. Everything that he does not notice or that fills your stomach, but has no mental nutritional value, remains on the debit side of his account.

If you slip into the red, he will note this and ensure that it is balanced out again as quickly and comprehensively as possible at the next opportunity.

How? By producing excessive appetite.

The more often and longer you have waived in the past, the more numerous and strict your self-imposed prohibitions, the more strenuous the tug-of-war with the inner bookkeeper becomes.

He's got damn stamina. At some point the rope slips through your hands, then he has a free run.

5 | You have everything under control.

You rush through your life. Have everything under control. Your duties. The work. Your family and your relationships.

You're not doing what you'd like to do.

You're not saying what you'd like to say.


You don't feel what you actually feel.


Rather, you keep all of this under one roof because it seems easier that way, you are less offensive and can fulfill your duties faster and more smoothly.

That works pretty well for a while. However, the space under the lid is not infinite. The pot needs a valve. The energy has to go somewhere, it needs a counterweight.

That's where food comes in.

Only this one Gallic village - your eating habits - you cannot somehow permanently control. You keep putting in more and more strength to do that. Nevertheless, it is less and less successful.

It's like showing you a long nose. Your eating behavior becomes a symbol of your weaknesses, which you do not admit to yourself and which you have eradicated in all other areas of life with great effort. Like a defiant little child. Eh!

These are the most common reasons for overeating.

There are others, but there is no explanation that is suitable for everyone and also no patent remedy. If you have eaten too much again, don't react with strictness and new prohibitions that make you even more stressful.

If you eat to calm yourself down, to numb yourself, to reward yourself, or to recharge your energy reserves, what contribution can the best dietary change make?

Your eating behavior is very individual and has been shaped by your previous life, your family and your experiences and habits.

Get to the bottom of the cause. Find out what exactly is behind this with you.

How to Find Out Your Reasons for Overeating:

At first it seems like an inscrutable mystery, your own eating habits.

I have no idea how it comes about and what you think of it. Most of the time you don't even notice it in the middle. The fact is, you kind of ended up eating too much. Yet again. You just can't seem to get it.

If you pull yourself down in the situation, you lose access to your emotions and thus the causes of your overeating even more.

Better turn the tables and focus your attention on what is really happening.

Observe in which situations you tend to overeat. But also when it is not an issue and you can stop without problems or your desire does not get that strong in the first place.

Do you discover connections or similarities in the situations?

Are there clusters of days of the week or times of day?

What role do your relationships with other people play?

Once you've observed your habits and recognized certain patterns, you can go a step further.

The eating pattern is not yet complete if you have only recognized the process and not the motive behind it.

Become an inspector of your own behavior. Put aside what you thought you knew so far and question the processes.

Proceed as if you had a mysterious case to solve in which you first know nothing and have to ask everything.

  • How hungry was I really before I started eating?
  • What was going on that day?
  • How did i feel
  • Was there a point where my mood or energy changed?
Start a scavenger hunt. Do not be afraid of the results and do not be ashamed of them. You are not alone with these challenges.
 
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3 | Play through alternatives

You go one step further if you manage to look at the whole situation from a certain distance.

Just pretend you're just an observer playing through a few possibilities under the circumstances.

For example, ask yourself:

If food had not been available, what would have been the best option in the situation?

If you could have changed one of your feelings at that moment, which one would it have been?
Which one would you have liked to have instead?

How did the food help you, what did it protect you from?

These scenarios give you additional knowledge and can help you understand your behavior on an even deeper level.

At this point, however, you may already think of a few alternatives or personal strategies that you can use to avoid overeating.

Even if you have not yet resolved the eating pattern by researching your personal reasons, you can already significantly mitigate its effects.

Your eating pattern has a message for you. You are not too weak and you do not need any more self-discipline.

You just have to listen. Yourself. Your body. Your needs.
 
The answers are already within you.