What is the best care for children

Child care: The best care for every child

Do you want to go back to work and need care for your child? Then you are in good company: More and more children under the age of three are looked after by a childminder or in a day nursery. Here you can find out which care is best for your child and your needs.

Crèche - It never gets boring

The plus points:

  • The children are looked after by trained educators. They pay attention to a well-thought-out and well-structured daily routine, ideally support your child according to the latest educational standards and teach them clear rules.
  • Your child will never be bored in the crib. It receives more suggestions, more play material and more opportunities to move around than at home or with the childminder. It also has many playmates, including older ones.
  • In a good daycare center, children develop particularly high levels of social skills. They gain trust in one another, try to resolve conflicts, help and comfort one another.


The negatives:

  • In German day nurseries, the childcare key often leaves something to be desired. Internationally, three to four children under three years of age per educator (not nanny!) Are considered a good standard - in Germany it is more like six to seven. The intensive and individual care of every single child is therefore often not possible.
  • Sensitive children quickly get into stress in larger groups. Possible symptoms: tiredness, hunger, attachment, sickness. A careful acclimatization with enough time is therefore the most important building block for a happy "crèche career".

Perfect for parents who ...

  • ... are looking for reliable, well-controlled and financially affordable care for their child.
  • ... want continuity for their child: New children are relatively seldom accepted into day nurseries (on average around three per year).
  • ... both work. The chance of a daycare place increases enormously if both parents can prove that they (have to) work.

Perfect for kids who ...

  • ... are sociable and have a certain self-confidence.
  • ... like to go on a discovery tour and often look for something to do and new ideas.
  • ... are prone to allergies. The risk of developing hay fever or asthma in the future is three times lower for crèche children than for children who are cared for at home.

Costs:

  • Quite different: They vary depending on where you live and your parents' income and are between 0 and 600 euros per month; private institutions sometimes charge even more.
  • As a rule, an additional 20 to 90 euros per child is charged as meal allowance.

Here you can read what a kindergarten place costs.

Childminder - it's cozy there!

The plus points:

  • The care times can be agreed individually.
  • The groups are very small. In addition to their own children, a child minder is allowed to look after a maximum of five children. This has the advantage that the childminder can respond better to the needs (e.g. bedtime) and peculiarities (e.g. strangeness or defiance) of the child than a daycare teacher.
  • The atmosphere is very familiar. The childminder's apartment will soon be like a second home for your child.


The negatives:

  • Most child minders have no pedagogical training and often only practice their "job" temporarily - as long as they have small children of their own. When searching, you should therefore ask carefully: Has the childminder possibly taken a course (through the Federal Childminder Association or a family education center)? Does she go to training more often?
  • It is difficult to judge whether the support is really good. Follow your gut feeling: Do you like the childminder? Is your child happy?
  • If your childminder is absent due to illness or termination at short notice, you usually have to find a replacement yourself.


Perfect for parents who ...

  • ... are looking for family support.
  • ... have taken the shorter one when registering for the crèche.
  • ... have no problem handing over their child. The close relationship with the childminder can lead to jealousy.


Perfect for kids who ...

  • ... are shy and would rather withdraw in a larger group.
  • ... have no siblings. Strong friendships often develop here.
  • ... have to do without mom for more than half a day. This is less strenuous with the childminder than in the daycare center.


Costs:

  • Day mothers receive between three and five euros per child and hour, in large cities it can be seven euros.
  • You can deduct the costs of the childminder up to an amount of 4,000 euros per year from tax. Provided that you have your child cared for so that they can work.

Grandparents - do you know what you have?

The pluses:

  • A child does not get as much love from a professional as from grandma and grandpa. Most grandparents are really eager to be with their grandchildren, explain the world to them and hand out gummy bears. It is really important to them that the children are well.
  • "Granny, can you tell a story" - is probably one of the most frequently asked questions from children. And grandma is usually happy to tell about the past in the most blooming colors. This is fantastic for children: They learn the interrelationships of life in the process - what was in the past, is today, tomorrow will come. And what family means: to be there for one another, to help one another, to take responsibility.
  • Your child knows grandma and grandpa. To be looked after by them doesn't mean a big change. You don't have to worry about getting used to it either.


The negatives:

  • Let's not kid ourselves: in most families there are always quarrels - especially when it comes to something as important as raising children. Does your mother think that when a child is two, they should stop wearing diapers? Your father-in-law thinks children should always eat their plates sparkling clean? Sure, you can tell your parents that you disagree - but whether that will help is another question.
  • To put it bluntly: Grandparents are no longer what they used to be - namely older people with an endless amount of time and an endless amount of patience. Actually that's great: Even at the age of 60 or older, they still have a lot to do: work, meet friends, attend adult education courses ... A Dutch study has found that grandma and grandpa today often have something else to do than "just "to take care of their grandchildren. Therefore: If you want to avoid tension, you shouldn't keep your grandparents busy day and night, but clarify with them beforehand exactly how much time they want and can "sacrifice". You should also accept the answer!


Perfect for parents who ...

  • ... have a good rapport with their own parents and are not afraid that their grandma or grandpa could move up to number one on the popularity scale.
  • ... tend to have a guilty conscience as soon as they place their child in someone else's hands. With your parents, the child stays in the family!
  • ... need flexible childcare hours, but are also flexible themselves - after all, grandma wants to go on vacation too.


Perfect for kids who ...

  • ... are still very young and need particularly loving and individual care.
  • ... smile all over your face as soon as they see grandma and grandpa.
  • ... constantly hanging on mum's skirt. This is where they can best make friends with their grandmother as the caregiver.


Costs:

  • Naturally pretty cheap: You will probably get away with a dinner invitation or a bouquet of flowers in between.

Au pair - it's unconventional

The plus points:

  • Your child will keep the familiar surroundings and the usual daily routine.
  • If everything goes well, you not only get childcare, but someone who belongs to the family.
  • Your child will get to know someone who speaks a different language and has a different cultural background.
  • The operating times (30 hours per week) can be handled very flexibly.


The negatives:

  • Even if you talk to each other on the phone in advance and send e-mails back and forth, you can hardly estimate whether the chemistry between au pair girls and family will be right. If you are unlucky, you have to spend a lot of time looking for a quick replacement and not all agencies are competent to help.
  • With an au pair you can sometimes bring an additional child into the house. The girls are usually not older than their early 20s, often come from a different cultural area and have only limited command of the German language - homesickness and thick tears can also be on the program.


Perfect for parents who ...

  • ... have a lot of space in the house.
  • ... are ready to warmly welcome a stranger and treat them like family members.
  • ... can use a little help around the house.


Perfect for children who ...

  • ... are curious and open-minded. You get to know a new culture and language.
  • ... have a secure attachment behavior. So you will be able to cope well with saying goodbye after a year.
  • ... are easy to care for. An au pair cannot be expected to provide pedagogically impeccable parenting.


Costs:

  • Quite difficult to calculate - in addition to the pocket money for the au pair, z. B. Agency fees and contributions for accident, health and liability insurance due. In total, you have to reckon with costs of around 450 euros per month. There is also accommodation and food.
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