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Learning from Jesus: From dealing with fellow human beings

How a visit to the doctor showed me what is important when dealing with people.

One of my mentors liked to say, “Show me how someone interacts with others, and I'll show you how they interact with God.” Those words stuck with me. But only recently, when I had to see a doctor, did I fully understand it. The doctor rushed into the examination room and a nurse came after him. It was my first time to see this doctor. "Hello, I'm Doctor So-and-so, and this is Nancy, who's writing the stuff down for me." With these words, he introduced me to his doctor's assistant. Nancy just looked at her clipboard and she didn't let it show that she'd overheard this belittling idea. "Good morning, Nancy," I said, interrupting the doctor's speech. Nancy looked at me with a careful smile. After explaining to the doctor why I was there, I noticed to Nancy that my daughter was just graduating as a nurse and how much I admire this demanding path to graduation. When the doctor finished my treatment, he quickly shook my hand and disappeared, with Nancy in tow. On the way home, my mentor's words came back to me: "Show me how someone interacts with others, and I'll show you how they interact with God." Then I thought about Jesus and what a completely different way of dealing with them People he had shown. In a sense, everyone was “under” Jesus at that time. But you could never have read that from the behavior of Jesus. So he lived one of the most ingenious leadership concepts that ever existed: Jesus emphasized those who were subordinate to him - his disciples. Regardless of whether you are a mother or father, employer, child worship worker, church leader or presbyter (or even a doctor!) - there are many ways in which others can be subordinate to you. People in this position should study three ways Jesus showed appreciation for others.

1. Jesus motivated people through affection, not intimidation.

In the Bible we encounter two different methods of getting someone to do something: Intimidating and scaring someone into motion. That is the model of this world. So it did z. B. King Saul, who threatened those who would not go to war with him that their precious cattle would be slaughtered (1 Samuel 11: 7). This leadership style is based on the following principles: Failure is not allowed. The success of others is threatening to yourself. Be bossy towards those below you. The other way to motivate: Get someone moving through love and respect. That is the model of Jesus. We see it already with King David, whose people had such a great appreciation for him that they broke through the enemy lines only to get him water from a spring in Bethlehem (2 Samuel 23: 15-16). This leadership style is also based on unspoken beliefs: failure does not mean the end. The success of others is a contribution to the success of all. Instead of dominating others, one orientates oneself on the behavior of a servant. Once Jesus took his disciples aside and told them that the world and its rulership were backward. He gave them a God-oriented alternative: “But it shouldn't be like that with you. Whoever wants to be great with you must be your servant ”(Matthew 20:26).

2. Jesus did not reprimand anyone without first telling him what he expected of him.

Jesus criticized the pious ones most severely, who knew God's will but ignored it (or made it suitable for themselves). Imagine if we were standing before the throne on Judgment Day with no idea what we would have done wrong. We would not only find that surprising, we would be outraged, and rightly so. Why? Because God would not have given us an opportunity to change. In reality, however, the Lord has given us more than enough insight into his being and his will. First, we hear the voice of conscience pointing out what is going wrong (Romans 2: 14-16). Second, creation points us to God (Romans 1: 20-23). And third, we have the scriptures, which not only reveal our sin, but also show us the way to forgiveness (Romans 2:23; 3: 23-24). In other words, no one will be able to stand before God the Judge and say, “How unfair!” Every day we live is a gift of goodness. Is it your job to provide critical feedback to others? Say it based on a compassionate relationship! Josh McDowell once said to parents: "Unrelated rules make you rebel." It is the same in the workplace. When I conduct annual appraisals with employees, I've gotten into the habit of not confronting anyone with surprising feedback (especially not with a resignation.) If someone has to be criticized, then they shouldn't be caught off guard. Jesus never did it that way. We shouldn't do it either.

3. For Jesus, failure was not the end, but the starting point for growth.

Anyone who had parents who were picky about every mistake found it difficult as an adult. All creativity is stifled, you can constantly feel the cracks in the thin ice. One does not know which step is the last before the abyss. You act insecure, dependent and always feel on a short leash. Jesus allowed people to fail. At the last supper he said to Peter: "If you have turned back and come back to me later, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:32). And after Peter denied him, Jesus gave him a new beginning at the Sea of ​​Galilee - Peter was not finished for him (John 21). When I think back to meeting my doctor and Nancy, I wonder if his team wouldn't be much more productive and much more identified with their work if they experienced affection, communication and compassion. Wouldn't Jesus' leadership style be a wonderful thing here?

From Dr. Wayne Stiles

Dr. Wayne Stiles is a writer and blogger based in Texas, USA, and offers virtual tours of the Holy Land on his website: In German he published the book "If God makes us wait - learn patience using the example of Joseph". This article first appeared on and has been translated with permission.