Why do people like to irritate other people

Frustrated people like to judge others

Last update: 10 March, 2017

All people, regardless of religion or social group, expect society to treat them fairly.

When we talk about justice there are many points of view to be taken into account, but in this article we do not want to go into the legal point of view the psychological aspect of judging and being judged consider in daily life.

"It is much more difficult to judge yourself than to judge other people."

Antoine de Saint Exupérie

We agree that some people do not base their judgment on specific and isolated situations, but rather take on the role of judge over the everyday life of other peoplewithout having been asked to do so by them.

Of course, this is a mistake, though not even a judge has the authority to do so outside his courtroombecause he was only used there for this function.

Why is our society full of false judges? Why do these people think that their own values ​​apply to themselves and others? Why do they judge others? How did these people get to this point?

"I hate judgments that don't change anything, just destroy it."

Elias Canetti

It is interesting to see what traits these non-commissioned judges have in common who, in some situations, take the liberty of To make harmful and hateful statements about everything and everyone around them.

People who judge other people:

  • ... mostly detest a large part of their own life and for this reason try to poison other people's lives with their views.
  • ... are not satisfied with what they are doing, and cannot cope with the fact that other people are satisfied with their life.
  • ... are not easy to recognize, as they are usually not cold people and do not have a negative attitude. But they are usually extremely frustrated and this frustration leads to aggression, which manifests itself in its various forms.
  • ... are tormented by the choices they have made, perhaps even driven by external influences without actually wanting these decisions. You live a life full of psychological conflicts that revolve around the choices made in your own life.
  • ... want to justify the course of their own life by criticizing the life of other people. In some situations they use the famous justification: "I'm actually not a bad person when I look at X's life."
  • ... undoubtedly talk about people and not about ideas.
  • ... do not judge other people from an objective point of view, which would shed light on the wrong decisions and the successes of these people. They make their judgment based on the simplest polemics, which are reflected in their subjective impression, their simple way of thinking and their envy.
  • ... have valuesthat are not designed to calm their own lives and the lives of those around them, but rather that are only designed to constantly criticize other people.
  • ... have no hobbies or activities, with which they deal.
  • …are mostly uncritical in judging their own mistakes. But they don't like being criticized for a task they are performing.
  • ... are easy to irritate and then react irritably.
  • The success of other people in their thinking is due to external circumstances, coincidences or favorable circumstances, while one's own successes have arisen as deserved, justified and independent of any lucky fortune. In other words, their success is justified, while other people's success is based on chance.
  • They believe that those around them are busy making value judgments about other people so that they don't have to grapple with their own achievements.
  • These people do not share their opinions in the presence of large numbers of people. They are not interested in this, otherwise they could be exposed.
  • Their reviews often show the desire to experiment what life has withheld from them or what they could not achieve on their own.
  • You are not interested in improving yourself, you think that the best way to stand out is to denigrate other people's accomplishments.
  • They give their value judgments on things that are unimportant and private to public and dangerous matters.

It is best to ignore these types of people and never give them power over youthat allows them to question your reputation or job performance in front of your friends, family, or any other type of audience.

Only helps against these people ignorance as an antidote, but you also have to be very vigilant at the same time so that these people don't overstep your privacy to the point where they can harm you.

"There are lights that shine on everything, just not your own chandelier."

Friedrich Hebbel