Why is hate so strong

Emotions: Instructions for use for a feeling: hate


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1. Occurrence

Two brothers, two offerings. God, it says in the Bible, chooses one, it is a lamb from Abel's flock. He rejects the bundle of grain that Cain wants to give him. Offended and feeling unloved, Cain begins to hate his brother until he kills Abel with a stone and becomes the first murderer in human history. To this day, hatred among siblings, whose relationship with their parents usually outlasts, is a widespread phenomenon. Hatred arises where people are particularly close to one another. In the family, among partners, in communities. The insults and rejections that they inflict consciously or unconsciously have a particularly violent effect between lovers and people who used to turn to one another: 70 percent of all homicides in the western world are related acts, estimates the Austrian psychiatrist and court expert Reinhard Haller.

And then there is a high number of unreported cases of haters. People who carry the feeling within themselves but do not show it because, like envy and resentment, it is despised: Hate makes those who feel ugly. An alternative to oppression is anonymous hatred. Under the protection of facelessness, there is open rushing on the Internet. Hate speech is the name of the racist, sexist or anti-Semitic comments that affect private individuals and institutions and can trigger so-called shit storms. Andreas Zick, Professor of Socialization and Conflict Research at Bielefeld University, says: "Once the hatred has been channeled, the willingness to act increases." Politically motivated crimes have been increasing for four years. Overall, the willingness to use violence, a reliable seismograph of hatred, has grown since the financial crisis.

Lisa Frieda Cossham

has found a place where she can act out her aggressions: the swimming pool. When she pulls the lane, she hates anyone who slows her down or pushes her way forward. Fortunately, curses cannot be heard in the water.

2. Features

Unlike anger or anger, hatred is not a passing storm of emotions. We hate rationally. Physically excited and yet clear in mind, we follow an idea that we associate with a negative feeling. No emotion is cognitively controlled as strongly as hatred, which rarely fizzles out overnight. Unlike anger and indignation, which are limited in their impulse, hatred is immoderate and unfree: the longer we hate, the stronger we attach ourselves to the object of hate. This creates an energy that neither redeems nor purifies us, which instead harms us. Hate is therefore the most destructive of all feelings, alongside envy and resentment, both for those who hate and for their victims: "It tends to aim at the annihilation of what is hated," it says in the Philosophy of feelings by Christoph Demmerling and Hilge Landweer. The only thing left for the victim is to retreat, his existence is threatened. The victim has no way of countering the hatred in a peaceful manner. Like violence, hatred is final and precludes dialogue. "The victim usually has the same feeling of powerlessness that preceded the hatred of the hater," says Reinhard Haller.



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Hate is not debatable like a conflict, so it can only be avoided. When we are dealing with reactive hatred, which is different from personality-bound hatred, it is based on a rejection like the one that God experienced Cain: reactive hatred refers to specific insults and injuries that we cannot process, for which we may ourselves be ashamed. Personality-bound hatred, on the other hand, has manifested itself in the character of the hater and is expressed, among other things, in pathological mistrust. Malignant narcissists show this, for example. You have to devalue others in order to enhance yourself. They are either sadistic or cynical and embroiled in ongoing hatred.

3. Creation

Hate is preceded by a feeling of powerlessness, it is a reaction to perceived injustice, to rejection. In most cases it is the emotion of the loser, he feels helplessly exposed to the devaluation by his counterpart and experiences his situation as unbearable. And so the hater narrows his perception to the supposed injustice and the desire to harm the hated, perhaps to destroy him. We are particularly prone to hatred during puberty, when our own values ​​fluctuate and the potential for aggression - also due to hormones - is relatively high. In these years, people are often hated with reservations: those who were despised yesterday can be closest friends today. In order to be able to hate, we have to simplify and sharpen. Anyone who weighs up, allows ambivalence, and possibly doubts, loses emotional sharpness. This tendency to the extreme division into good and bad is already developed in the first months of life.