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Manager instead of "mom" - Italy's women no longer want to cook

Pasta della Nonna, Torta della Nonna, Sugo della Nonna - the “grandmother-style” label advertises spaghetti, cakes and tomato sauce. The mother, the Italian "Mamma", would not be a good sales argument either. Children, church, kitchen - everything was once upon a time. In the stress of work and family life, she no longer stands at the stove for hours like her grandmothers once did, and the birth rate is one of the lowest in Europe.

According to a study by the Ministry of Labor with the national statistical office Istat and the state insurance company Inps from autumn, women have 1.4 children - similarly low as in Germany. If one excludes the foreign women and only looks at the Italian women, there are only 1.3 children.

The couples get married later, and even church weddings go out of fashion in Catholic Italy. According to the study, more than a third of the couples (37.2 percent) did not say yes to the pastor in 2009 - the proportion was three times as high as in 1980.

The women are no longer at the stove either. The majority of Italian women spend only 15 minutes a day cooking, according to an internet survey of 500 women carried out by the psychologist Serenella Salomoni in Padua in the spring. "Her grandmothers had spent at least an hour a day on their cooking skills," says Salomoni. 33 percent of those surveyed invested a quarter of an hour, 22 percent less than half an hour. Only seven percent spent the “traditional” hour in the kitchen - like grandma once did. Salomoni: "What is striking is that today's women watch an average of four hours of cooking programs a week."

That doesn't seem to be reflected in the culinary arts. 40 percent of the men complained that dishes were too bland and diet-heavy, a quarter lacked imagination, and 15 percent said the menu was too much according to the children's wishes. No wonder women lost interest in the kitchen. That is also a good sign, says Salomoni. "The women are more self-confident, they can also say no from time to time."

The image of the cozy, fat “mom” no longer fits. Careers are important, and in times of crisis, many Italian women fear for their future careers. A young architect named Paola said on television Rai 2. The hourly wage was low, but she could at least dispose of it herself. However, starting a family is out of the question.

Despite all the changes, a good 70 percent of the housework in the study by Istat and Inps rests on women’s shoulders. The men help more than they used to. Nevertheless, women with children work every day - job and household combined - an hour and a quarter more than their partner. "Women continue to have greater difficulties in balancing working hours and family concerns," the study concludes.

What is reflected in the kitchen: The food is often also pre-cooked from the Rosticceria on the corner on the table or as a ready-made meal from the supermarket - preferably according to grandma’s recipe.

“A lot of women buy frozen things because they have to work,” says Antonia Durante from Rome. “You don't come home until six, seven, eight in the evening. They have a different culture. ”She likes to cook herself - even things that have long been ready. “I still make the pasta myself - I enjoy it,” says the 59-year-old, herself a grandmother. Your grown children would not have learned that at all. “They always say: show me how to do it. But whenever I make the pasta, they are not there. "

As in Germany, grandmothers are also in great demand in person. They take care of the children when the mothers are at work and cook for the whole family - presumably traditionally “alla Nonna”.