Why are our parents so boring

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How about the boredom?

For example Manuel: he plays with his building blocks for ten minutes and is bored again. Or Sabrina: She was just painting deeply. Now she is bored. Both hope that their parents will stimulate them. What should I do?

First of all: the boredom of children is not the parents' business. They are neither the entertainers nor the animators of the children. Manuel is probably one of the many children who never play long and focused. On the contrary, Sabrina has just finished an intense plot of the game. Both want the parents to give the next incentive.

But all of the suggestions come to nothing: go swimming, reading, cycling? "I don't feel like doing that!" Any tip, no matter how well meant, will be blocked. The fact is that the child doesn't feel like anything. Manuel does not manage to immerse himself in a game. It remains a superficial occupation. However, Sabrina doesn't yet know what to do next. It is not easy - not only for children, by the way - to find out what you actually want. This causes uncomfortable feelings that make you whimper and nervous.

The deep valley of boredom - once it is crossed, parents and children can breathe a sigh of relief. Because sooner or later an idea will develop. It just takes some time.

Sometimes, however, the constant reference to boredom has the reason that the child feels ignored and so seeks closeness. Think about how much time you spend with your child. Are there enough opportunities to play or do something with each other? If you feel that your child feels alone, take time for your child.

Can children be bored?

Boredom has many facets. So just a few examples:

  • Boredom occurs when the child is exposed to too many stimuli. Continuous television, computer games ... Everything becomes boring because there is very little scope for your own ideas. External stimuli can only partially and superficially fill the inner emptiness.
  • Boredom arises when children are used to being kept busy all the time. You fail to make something up yourself.
  • Boredom often arises when the children have played very intensively beforehand. It is an intermediate stage before a new idea is developed. Boredom is then part of the game.
  • Long car journeys, visits to adults ... all those situations in which children cannot do what they want are boring, of course.

How does boredom come about?

Boredom has many facets

So just a few examples:

  • Boredom occurs when the child is exposed to too many stimuli. Continuous television, constant cell phone use, computer games ... Everything becomes boring because there is very little scope for your own ideas. External stimuli can only partially and superficially fill the inner emptiness.
  • Boredom arises when children are used to being kept busy all the time. You fail to make something up yourself.
  • Boredom often arises when the children have played very intensively beforehand. It is an intermediate stage before a new idea is developed. Boredom is then part of the game.
  • Long car journeys, visits to adults ... all those situations in which children cannot do what they want are boring, of course.

 

What to do if you are bored

If children are bored, parents don't have to do anything. Boredom is part of everyday life. Children have to learn to endure this. So don't make an offer every time you feel bored. Boredom goes away - otherwise we would all have died of boredom long ago.

What do bored children do? They ride their bikes, they sit and listen to music, they look up in the air ... They just take the time to figure out what they want. So: please do not disturb!

Children learn to get along with themselves. You learn to find solutions to difficult situations independently.

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