Do you like asian girls

The other "yellow fever": Why are some men just into Asian women?

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I once asked my first boyfriend what his friends thought of me as an Asian. They thought it was funny that he was with a Chinese woman, teased him that he would drive me "like a Kawasaki". This tasteless fixation on my ethnicity made me feel humiliated - and they didn't even get to the right country.

I grew up in New Zealand and often struggled with being different. In my late teens, I found out that as a Chinese, I have a "typical" sexual identity: shy but secretly dirty.

During my studies I heard about the so-called "yellow fever" for the first time. I was not surprised that there is a slang expression for (mostly white) men who are only attracted to Asian women. After all, there are several dating websites that specialize in such men, and in Pornhub's Annual Review, "Japanese" and "Asian" were among the top 20 search terms of 2016.

So "yellow fever" is real. And I've always asked myself one question: Why is that?

Dr. Ed Morrison, a professor of evolutionary psychology at Portsmouth University, explains that mate choice is evolutionarily based on a similar one, but not to to find a similar partner. This means that we normally prefer people from the same population group, but avoid genetic relatives due to the risk of mutations in the offspring.

So white men might be attracted to Asian women because they are genetically sufficiently different. However, that doesn't explain the guys who exclusively pounce on Asian women. Morrison says, "Even in multicultural societies, you are more likely to end up with someone of the same ethnicity."

As with all great mysteries of human behavior, there is another important factor involved in our evolutionary history and genetic makeup: culture.

There are other convincing explanations for "yellow fever", but what interests me most is the influence of pornography. There is a certain common thread in Asian porn: women are always pious, feminine and virginal, but at the same time ready for all evil deeds. And my God, in no other porn category do the actresses scream so much and loudly.

Of course, it's all just an act. As an Asian, I can say that penises don't make me cry. Erika Nishimori, a Japanese porn actress, also confirms that the restraint and the screeching are part of the job. "I've played in really embarrassing scenes - including crying and feigning fear," she says. "That should turn the men on. However, it hardly corresponds to reality."

So Asian porn is just fiction. Such distorted representations of Asian women can create a completely wrong picture. A recent study from the UK found that the majority of young porn users think porn is realistic. What does this mean for lovers of Asian erotic films? Dr. Elena Martellozzo, a study co-author and criminologist at Middlesex University, explains: "When young men repeatedly watch pornography in which the actresses are extremely submissive, these young men can develop unrealistic sexual expectations of women." But what's worse, even in normal plays, films, books, and TV series, Asian women are constantly portrayed as obedient, vulnerable, and hypersexual.

Actually, I am of the opinion that everyone should do what they like behind closed doors - as long as everything happens amicably and no one is harmed. However, if men are only attracted to Asian women because they assume that we are all exotic, harmless, shy, submissive, and (very worrying!) Childish plants, then I don't think that's good at all.

Asian adult models at the AVN Awards 2016 | Photo: Baldwin Saintilus | Flickr | CC BY 2.0

Since pornography is a multi-billion dollar industry in Japan alone, it is difficult for change to take hold. Where there is a demand, there is also an offer. But does this steady flow of Asian porn really distort the ideas of white men who are into Asian women?

Max * explains his preference with a preference for certain physical characteristics - such as dark hair or a slim build. He is aware of the stigma and had to find out the hard way that as a white man with a focus on Asian women, you don't exactly create storms of enthusiasm. Adam * also only likes women with Asian features. In his opinion, however, the concept of "yellow fever" is idiotic: "Do white men who are only into white women have white fever?" He asks sarcastically.

I understand both of them, but my opinion cannot be so clearly defined. For one thing, it is too simplistic to speak of an exclusive preference for the physical characteristics of Asian women. That falsely implies that all Asian women are petite, dark-haired and wrinkle-free. On the other hand, I ask myself whether attractiveness can really only be purely physical. When we see another person, we automatically worry about their personality.

Ultimately, the reasons why we are drawn to other people are very complex. Dr. David Frederick, an assistant professor of psychology at Chapman University, studies how biological and social factors affect what we find attractive. In addition to the stereotype of submissiveness, other factors also play a role in the preference for Asian women. When white men grow up around white women, "women of other ethnicities have a certain charm". Frederick also points out that good interpersonal relationships can have a positive influence: "When a man has a particularly positive relationship with an Asian woman, that reinforces his preference. The typical physical characteristics of Asian women are then associated with positive feelings and the affected men will continue to focus on Asian women in the future. "

With so many understandable explanations, one thing is clear: preferences when looking for a partner cannot be generalized with overarching terms such as "yellow fever". And expressions that arbitrarily put a stamp on men and at the same time objectify women are crap anyway. I once saw how some guys diagnosed their buddy with "yellow fever" because he liked an Asian woman walking by. Why was the woman's ethnicity in this situation reflexively sexualized, as it was when I was compared to a Japanese motorcycle? I am sure that a man can find an Asian woman attractive even if he does not have a deeply rooted predilection for this ethnic group.

It is very offensive to attribute "yellow fever" to other people. The term is thrown around arbitrarily and it objectifies Asian women. Plus, it's not funny to compare a preference for Asian women with a potentially fatal disease. Because even if our vaginas are really tight, they certainly won't kill you.

* Name changed

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