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Living self-care: 10 things you should do every day

Self-care is essential for a healthy and fulfilling life. But it goes far beyond the bubble bath on the weekend. Here you can find out what is really part of being self-caring and what 10 things you should do every day to give yourself the attention and care you deserve.

If we do not take care of ourselves, numerous problems are inevitable: exhaustion, overload, stress, illness, dissatisfaction ... All this and much more is the consequence for all those who neglect themselves and ignore their own needs.

Self care? I do not have time for that

But even though we know this, many people find it difficult to take time for themselves and to treat themselves with care. Often certain beliefs are to blame:

  • We believe it is not proper to take yourself seriously.
  • We think we'd be better people if we put others first.
  • We were raised to want to please everyone, to work hard or to be particularly fast.

Self-care then seems wrong or just like wasted time.

Take a break and take care of myself? I can do that when I'm dead!

And that's how we often approach the topic: We try to pack the necessary, but somehow annoying, self-care into the one week vacation that we are about to have. 358 days a year I exploit my resources relentlessly, but in the 7 days at the Baltic Sea I enjoy myself. Hopefully the batteries will then be recharged for the next self-destruct marathon.

Or we think that a 10-minute bath on the weekend would do it. 7 days a week we treat each other like the nasty stepmother treated Cinderella, but on Sunday we pretend for 10 minutes that we respect, care and take good care of ourselves.

That's not how it works.

Especially since self-care is so much more than a little care, relaxation and sleep.

Caring for you means Treat you with kindness and compassion. It means creating a positive relationship with yourself, getting to know yourself, letting go of what is pulling you down and learning to deal with your thoughts and feelings. It means leading relationships that are based on respect, setting boundaries, fulfilling your needs and shaping your life overall in such a way that you can feel comfortable and flourish in it.

You see, self-care isn't something we can tick off on the weekend or on vacation. Self-care should be with us every day.

Because every decision we make can be more or less self-caring.

Self-care every day

Here are 10 tips how self-care can look like in everyday life, which you can practice and practice on a daily basis:

1. Be aware of your needs

Means self-care lovingly responding to your needs. To do this, you must first perceive it. A simple trick is the following: Set up two to three alarms on your mobile phone throughout the day. When they start, stop for a moment and listen to yourself: How am I? What do I need right now? Am I hungry or thirsty? Am i cold Am i angry or dissatisfied? What is the need behind it?

When you've figured out what you need right now, meet those needs. That means: when you are cold, put on a sweater. If you're stressed, get up briefly, go outside, and take a deep breath.

2. Respect your limits

Self-care also means being aware of your limits. What can you do and what do you want to do? If it is too much helping you move on the weekend, say so. If you don't want to have an open relationship, say so.

When you have a hard time No To say, proceed as follows: Before you automatically agree and then get annoyed about it, take a deep breath and say: "I have to look at my calendar first", "... talk to my partner", ".... check the kids' appointments ”or simply“ ... think about it ”. This gives you time to calmly consider how you want to proceed. If you do not want to comply with the request, say "No!". You can even practice that beforehand.

3. Stop self-criticism

A loving relationship with yourself also requires that you yourself not mentally fleshed out yourself. If you catch yourself doing this, stop yourself immediately. Become aware of what you are doing right now; namely to convince yourself that you are no good. Ideally, you will question your thoughts and come to a more realistic view. (You can find instructions for questioning negative beliefs here).

But even if you don't succeed because you still find it difficult to look benevolently at yourself, at least say: “Stop! I'm talking badly right now. I don't want to do that anymore! ”And then distract yourself.

4. Brake your drivers

If you belong to the people who always have to do everything perfectly, who constantly try to please everyone or believe that they have to do everything on their own, brake yourself! Tell yourself: “Good is good enough!”, “The cake doesn't have to be a masterpiece!”, “It's enough if I proofread the report twice!”, “It's okay if I get help!”, “Me can't please everyone anyway. That's why I concentrate on what I want. "

Reducing your demands is a long learning process. But it starts by becoming aware of you when you fall into this pattern, and then always to counter it aggressively.

5. Do something that gives you pleasure

Treating yourself caringly also means making sure that there is often enough something beautiful and enjoyable to experience. And not only when the project is over or the children have left the house. Otherwise, not only will the joie de vivre quickly fall by the wayside. The meaning is also lost.

Why am I doing this at all? What is this all about? are questions that come up quickly when you stop enjoying life. Therefore get the joy back in your everyday life. It can be enough to pursue a hobby, read on the balcony every evening, have a good conversation with your partner, go dancing or enjoy an ice cream.

6. Write a diary

There are many benefits to writing in a journal that can serve a variety of self-care purposes. On the one hand, it's a wonderful opportunity get to know yourself better. The diary helps you, for example, to reflect on what is important to you, how you want to live, what gives you pleasure and where your strengths lie. The better you get to know yourself, the easier it is for you to create a life that suits you and that fulfills you.

Writing a journal can also help you learn more about your thoughts and feelings. What has been going through my head all day long? What do i think of myself What do i feel? Am i dissatisfied? If so, with what? That too is a good foundation for one better access to yourself and to become more aware of what concerns you and how you see yourself.

7. Take breaks

And many! Just as the weekend is not enough to recover from an exploitative week, a lunch break is not enough to regenerate from 8 hours of strenuous mental or physical activity. So make sure you spread it over the day to get up again and againto loll around, a fresh drinkTo fetch nk, go to the window, take a lap around the block or have a short conversation with your colleague.

If you sit all day, it is good to move around during the break (e.g. getting up, walking, doing yoga, etc.). If you work physically, it is beneficial to sit down, relax and do something mental (e.g. reading, doing crossword puzzles, meditating, etc.)

8. Have positive self-talk

We all talk to ourselves. We tell ourselves what we still have to do or comment on what we are currently doing. Just as you should pay attention to your thoughts and stop self-criticism, also pay attention to how you talk to yourself (loudly or softly). Your self-talk should be compassionate, motivational, and positive. You don't have to tell yourself to do this. There is precious little point in telling yourself that you are invincible. Especially when you have a negative image of yourself, you will not believe in it and fall into an inner defensive position.

So stay realistic. But that also works in a positive way. For example like this. Instead of saying: “Oh dear, I still have so much to do, I can never do it!”, Say to yourself: “Okay, I'll just start now, do one thing after the other and then it will be fine!”. Instead of saying, “Oh man, I'm also stupid. Now I've missed the branch! ”, Tell you:“ Oh, now I didn't pay attention for a moment and promptly missed my branch. Okay, I'll just turn around! "

Anything you say to yourself, you can do in a compassionate, respectful, and kind way. That is the right tone for you!

9. Be true to yourself

Do you often make compromises that feel lazy because they violate important values ​​of yours? Do you often do things that you hate because others ask you to do them?

Staying true to yourself doesn't always mean stubbornly getting your way through or imposing it on others. But it means that you yourself become aware of your values and consider to what extent you are currently living in accordance with them or whether you are doing something that runs contrary to your values.

Self-care can then mean setting boundaries and saying “no” when you don't want to do something. It can mean looking for another job or going to a couple counseling session because your relationship is no longer what you need and hope for.

10. Take your feelings seriously

Your feelings are important. They want to tell you something. So listen to them.

What do you feel Has there been a simmering dissatisfaction that you have been carrying around with you for a long time? Can't let go of anger over an injustice that happened to you? Do you feel bored and under-challenged at work?

If you pay attention to your feelings, you can learn a lot about yourself through them and thus take better care of yourself. That doesn't mean that you let your emotions out in every situation from now on. Rather, it means perceiving what is there and considering what you can learn from it.


You see, self-care is so much more than a weekend bubble bath. Caring for yourself affects your thoughts, your feelings, your relationships, your needs, your desires, yes, your entire life. It's about improving your relationship with yourself and treating yourself with a friendly, compassionate, and respectful attitude.

When you are ready to lay the foundation for a happy and fulfilling life, start making peace with yourself and giving yourself the love you deserve. In my book you will find numerous inspirations and effective exercises to take care of yourself in the best possible way on all levels and to finally become your best friend.

 

 

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