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5 toxic habits that will steal your happiness

Last update: December 30, 2016

The habits we have define us - be that good or bad - they cannot just act as strategies to help us overcome obstacles; they can also be like the poisoned apple, which, although tasty, is a trap.

Despite the fact that we are healthy in many of our efforts to optimize our efforts, we also have habits that are ultimately toxic to our health and life itself and which prevent us from being happy.

It is even possible that habits that you rate as "acceptable" are not good at all and you are not aware of the consequences of your habits. Today we're going to show you 5 toxic habits that could keep you from being happy.

Acquiring these habits or others from an early age is of no minor importance, but of absolute importance.

Aristotle

1. Think negatively

We tend to have a bad habit of thinking negatively. We are experts in what we don't want, don't have, can't earn or can't do, and pay all our attention to it. Hearing negative thoughts can be a bad habit that ends up limiting us on both a social and an individual level. Because if you think you can't do something, will you try?

Negative thoughts can become our great enemy, luring us bit by bit into its spider web, turning everything around us into gray fog and, in the most extreme cases, plunging us into depression along with other variables.

The difficulty arises from the fact that we have become used to these things - as a habit - and therefore it is not so easy to get rid of this habitus. Therefore we need to start paying attention to the way we think and that is inextricably linked to how we speak and judge ourselves. Besides, that will Draw your attention to what you wantto be your tool to shed light on this thick fog.

2. Blame others for everything

Blaming others for what happens is giving up responsibility for your own actions and even for your own feelings. This is how you tell yourself that you are not the master of your life and that it is others or the circumstances that rule you.

It is necessary to remember that you are in control of yourself and only you provide the answers to what is happening to you. The famous pilot and religious leader Dieter Uchtdorf once said: "The older we get, the more we look back and realize that external circumstances are not important or determine our happiness."

Happiness is a matter of attitude and if you choose to blame others for what is happening to you instead of realizing what you can do to get ahead, then you will find it difficult to enjoy life.

3. Trying to be someone you are not

You can live your life trying to be yourself or, on the contrary, try to be the person others want you to be. You decide that, but obviously that decision implies that you may be deceiving yourself. Think about it: How can you be happy when you are not yourself?

Putting on a mask is a double-edged sword, a trap that in time will distance you from yourself and who you believe to be who you are. Find yourself, learn to accept yourself, to love you and to show you who you are - this is the only way your relationship with yourself and with others can be authentic.

4. Compare yourself to others

Comparing ourselves with others is of no use, because each of us is unique and irreplaceable and has had different experiences. Their stories, yours and mine, have nothing to do with each other, so why should we compare? To comfort us or to think we are better? To justify that we are worse? What do we want to achieve with this?

Comparing different experiences makes no sense, because there are no equal conditions for different people. Your happiness can be very different from that of your friends. Does it necessarily make you a happy person if you do what they do?

Gratitude is the antidote to comparisonand the best medicine to achieve happiness. Every day, write down the things that make your life so wonderful, small as they are ... that will make you happy.

5. Don't learn from your mistakes

Mistakes can be our best teachers if we learn from them. If we make a mistake but then don't think about what happened and what lesson we can learn from it, something similar is likely to happen to us again.

To understand this way of thinking, all you have to do is follow these words Thomas Edison once uttered to a reporter who asked him about his invention of the light bulb: “I did not fail. But I've discovered thousands of approaches that don't work. " So you can see that Failure is only part of the road to success are.

Thinking negatively, blaming others, putting on a mask, comparing ourselves or not learning from our mistakes are just 5 habits that have negative effects on our emotional state - and that happen without us being aware of them. Yet they keep us from being happy.

Happiness is in us and we are the ones who have to contribute to its development. Do not forget that. Pay attention to your habits and change them if necessary.