What decision ruined your life

Why fear of decisions can ruin your life

Making decisions is tough. I know that from my own experience.

I also tend to put off making decisions. I secretly hope that she will solve everything somehow.

Preferably without me To take responsibility got to. Without me myself face my fears got to.

Sometimes that worked well in the short term. Yet the long-term consequences of that were terrible.

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Effects of Fear of Decisions

In the past, I often didn't end relationships for fear of hurting my partner.

That's how I got stuck in relationships that I no longer wanted. My partner noticed this unconsciously, of course, and there was always unspoken tension in the air.

I didn't drop out of an education that brought me to the verge of a nervous breakdown.

I was just scared of it to screw up my future.

I'm with you every day grueling fear I went to my apprenticeship and was so tense that I made one mistake after the other.

Even if I'm at the moment Stress and pressure got around a decision - in the long run it only hurt me.

All of this could have been avoided if I had had better control over my fear of decisions.

The fear of consequences

We are not afraid of making decisions. We have Fear of the consequences our choices.

  • We are afraid of obstructing the future
  • We are afraid that someone will reject us
  • We are afraid to offend
  • We are afraid of becoming people's mockery

The list of our fears is long. But let's not resolve our fear by hiding from decisions. We just suppress it.

That leads to the fact that the fear grows stronger and we have even more problems with our decision making.

So we don't have a decision problem.We have an anxiety problem. When we control fear of the future, it will be much easier for us to make decisions.

The worst that can happen

Often our fear of the future is unfounded. It is not based on facts but on misjudgments on our part.

In my case, that should induce you to suppress your fear. Dealing productively with our feelings is central if we want to live happily.

How to deal with your feelings, you will find out in this article.

The first thing is to accept your fear. We don't want to see fear as something what to avoid.

However, that does not mean that we have to continue believing the horror visions in our head. In the end they are responsible for when we are afraid of making decisions.>

More relaxed decisions

We imagine consequences that we couldn't handle. We believe things could happen that overwhelm us. We see our lives go down the drain.

But that, my friend, is only in your head. I swear stone and leg that 99.9% of the things that are life threatening in your head will never happen.

If you are honest with yourself you will agree with me. Our head still tries with all its might to protect us from something which is extremely unlikely.

Unfortunately, this has far-reaching consequences for our lives.

'Cause when we can't make choices we are not free.We cannot grow personally. We persist in circumstances that are not good for us. We spend a lot of energy brooding.

So don't believe everything in your head.

Notice that there are films going on in your head cinema that have nothing to do with reality.

No consequences

Also notice that yourself 99.9% all of your choices Not will have a serious impact on your life.

Ask yourself what influence this decision might have in 5 or 10 years on your life will have. With very few exceptions, the impact is minimal.

So why make a decision like the wind?

If it doesn't have any consequences anyway, then we can decide without any stress.

Self-confidence

There are decisions that you could regret your whole life. A child with the wrong partner, for example.

But with eternal repentance one only harms oneself. The decision can not undone anyway become.

There are a lot of ways and means, too Wrong decisions to be able to live well. There is always the possibility deal confidently with mistakes and to stand by them.

It doesn't always have to be the children's decision.

But if you have the confidence to know that you will make the best of a possibly bad decision, then your fear of making decisions will quickly evaporate.

There are no mistakes

So look at it this way. You can't make a mistake. Because often there are actually many reasons at the time of the decision For this decision.

So you haven't stupid decided you just lacked information. Nobody can look into the future and afterwards you are always smarter.

So check it off and learn from it. In fact, the fastest way to develop is when we make a lot of decisions, get a lot of feedback and do better next time.

Studies have shown that people with a good gut feeling make so accurate decisions because they have already made many decisions in this area.

They have created an incredibly large database of experiences to support them with every decision.

In the end, we don't regret any decision the most

We can deal with wrong decisions. We rolled over all the facts and gave us time to feel into ourselves.

In the end we tried with all our might the best decision for us to get out.

We can get over the fact that it was ultimately the second best option.

But if we fool around out of fear and miss a good chancebecause we simply couldn't make up our minds - that really gnaws at us.

Keep this in mind the next time you're scared of a decision. No matter what you choose, it will be better than to remain in a state of shock.

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