Why can't life be easy

6 simple steps to be more happy in life

"The most important thing is to enjoy your life, to be happy. It's all that matters. "

- Audrey Hepburn

You can choose to be happy here and now, just as you are. It's not an easy decision, but it's worth it. You can find happiness by not looking for it, but by looking for it just being and cherishing the moment. Happiness can be found by finding what you value most, what is most important to you, and working for it. The point is that you can find it, that it is possible.

Happiness is about perception. It means seeing the glass as half full and reaching for that fullness. It is a mindset that can turn anything around. Everyone's goal is to be happy.

1. Practice positive reframing

Positive reframing changes the way you think you are more positive. It means one Taking negative thoughts and questioning them. For example, it involves spotting a cognitive bias like over-generalization, mind reading, catastrophic thinking, and more, and asking yourself: what is the purpose behind that thought? Usually the intention of the thought is to protect you and what you want. So, what do you want? Can you find one more productive thought or a more productive goal for the result you want. Replace the negative thought with a transformation.

This is cognitive behavioral therapywhere you break down a thought and try to make it more positive. Set the intention for yourself with a new, more positive thought instead of letting your mind get behind the wheel and derail you. You can do this with any thought and in any situation. If you get stuck in traffic and think, "Everything is always so horrible," then you are generalizing too much. Instead, think, "This is uncomfortable, but I know that life is good anyway because ..." Fill in the gaps with whatever motivates you to be happy. Then the comprehensive will bring you inner peace.

Positive reframing questionsYou may also ask yourself for a healthy self-talk are:

  • What good can I get out of this situation?
  • How can I use what I have?
  • What lessons have I learned from this situation?
  • In this situation, what path can I suggest to someone else?
  • What can I look forward to?

Reframing is simply rethinking. Instead of letting negative thoughts guide you, decide for yourself what to think.

2. Assess your negative biases

A Negativity distortion means that you tend to focus on the negatives rather than the positives. Negative events or memories take precedence over positive ones in your mind. Negative emotions overwhelm positive emotions. Negative self-talk is the norm before speaking to yourself in self-pity. Criticism is seen more than friendliness. You react more strongly to negative events and ignore the positive.

So what can you do about it? Realize that anything can be inherently more negative. You have to find the positive in a targeted manner. When you experience negativity, realize that you may not see everything. There's more to the story there is more in YOU.

3. Enjoy the simple things

If happiness is rooted in anything, it is appreciation.

Appreciating what you have, where you come from, what you love, what is around you. And you will find that it is starts with the simple thingsthat can make the biggest difference. Don't let life pass you by! Ultimately, you always have the option to look for the positives. It's up to you what you see. While you're here, be awake to what is. Create a Gratitude list of your life.

Be careful! Notice the simple things that give you pleasure. It could conversations be with someone you love. Or it could be that you are something Alone time spend. It could be a Walk in nature be. It could be in one book be buried. It must nothing special be. It could be perfectly normal. Whatever it is, find it. All it takes is to open your eyes.

4. Finish the comparison game

If you keep thinking that the grass is greener on the other side, you forget to water your own grass.

Living in a state of self-destructive thoughts is not productive. Look at how much you've done and overcome. Be your own ally! What matters is the story you tell yourself. Tell yourself that you are good enough Or are you telling yourself that you are unworthy? The positive or negative self-talk is up to you.

Remember, people are only showing you what they want to show you. If you take a closer look at people, you will see more imperfections. You will see more humanity. That no one gets away with it when they have it all, and when they do, they may take things for granted. Do your best by recognizing where you are from and still reaching for everything. Then you will uplift others on your way because you don't need their contributions. You just need the inspiration that you feel. And it comes from within. Life is too short to focus on the successes or failures of others. Look at your own goals and only compete with yourself.

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5. Do not break the connection

"When you shut down emotion, you're also affecting your immune system, your nervous system. So the repression of emotions, which is a survival strategy, then becomes a source of physiological illness later on."

- Dr. Gabor Mate

In the emotional dysregulation it is about the inability to process and respond to emotions. This affects your general well-being. When you deny difficult emotions in the pursuit of happiness, you enable emotional dysregulation. That's because the Denial of negative emotions or just being positive all the time (toxic positivity) will not prevent the existence of emotions. Denial doesn't work. Don't let go of your emotions. You have to process it, not just enforce it. The insights that one gains from engaging with one's emotions and navigating through them with self-compassion can lead to a greater understanding of oneself and one's needs and thus to greater happiness.

6. Overcome the "goal addiction"

Robert Holden, PhD. came up with the term "Destination addiction". By that he meant that people are so busy becoming happy that they miss what happiness actually is. If you just live your life waiting, that's all you will do. When you're constantly thinking about the next thing - be it a project, finding a new relationship, traveling, making more money, perfecting your brand or image - it's easy to get caught up in all of that.

It's not about the next thing. It's about the now.

There is no goal other than the choices we make now and the most important choice is choosing to be happy. The search for it makes it more difficult to grasp. What happens in life has always a certain amount of uncertainty. Don't waste your time waiting for happiness. Let it happen!

Sarah Jeanne Browne has no position in any of the stocks mentioned. We have translated it for you so that we can exchange ideas with our readers on relevant topics.

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