What do you think of bad teachers

119 When children have bad teachers

When children have bad teachers

Are teachers really always to blame? We are increasingly observing students who blame teachers for bad grades and who reflect little on themselves and their way of learning and working. But if teachers are always to blame and can no longer please their students, then also students have only up to a certain degree the possibility of influencing their grades and the enjoyment of learning, as well as at school.
This time we have recorded for you why it is so important to strengthen personal responsibility and simply put the question of guilt aside!
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Miriam and Cathrin
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Script episode 119

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We found that when students talk about school, it is often the teachers who are to blame for everything.

If the class progresses too quickly or too slowly - the teacher is to blame. If the grades are not as good as you want them to be, then the poor teacher did not prepare the lesson properly or did something different in the exam than was previously practiced.

The self-reflection of the students seems to have been more and more lost and the students are the victims of the circumstances!

But it doesn't always help students to blame the teacher when the grade is bad or when they can't keep up with school.

Because whenever students do that, they cannot change the situation themselves, then they are at the mercy.

When we talk to teachers or educators, we experience exactly that. Teachers and educators are often more busy discussing and justifying themselves with parents than they can take care of the children and the lessons or activities in kindergarten.

We observe the behavior of the parents, namely to blame the teachers, in the same way in the 11th grade students. The same discussions about the work being too long, too hard, or too poorly prepared.

Often, even when the children are still young, people talk negatively about the school or the teachers at home and the children are right when they say that the teacher is mean and unjust.

If we assume that there is no evaluation in the universe, and you create your world with what you think and how you act according to it, then there is also no evaluation whether one model - the teacher is guilty - good and the other - e.g. you ask yourself other questions to find out what the teacher expects is bad. You have the option to live in both models.

If you decide to live in the model in which there are many bad teachers, then there will always be something that is bad.

There will be work that is too difficult, there will be teachers who set up the lessons too slowly or too quickly. Then the teachers are always to blame. For us the question arises which model makes more sense or which makes your life easier.

Which model gives your children something that will later enable them to actively shape their lives?

If the teacher is to blame, then your child has no design options, but is at the mercy of the teacher.

The other model doesn't mean it's your fault or your kids either! The other model means that your child has the chance to do something different to achieve a different result and that without the teacher changing.

In school it doesn't work to take a model and copy it to other teachers. Teachers value different things and every teacher, like every student, is different. Every teacher has their own standard of assessment.

What we can give our children is the flexibility to learn to adapt to other people and to find out what that is what the child needs now in order to be successful in the corresponding situation.

It is not about running through life without reflection and just adapting, but about not always being able to generalize situations, but being able to adjust to new situations. And that is not only the case in adulthood, but already at a young age at school, at other people's homes or when playing with friends.

So instead of asking the children what the teacher is doing wrong, they should ask how and what they can learn from him.

If your child is flexible, they will take the lead for themselves. It is up to you to change something and to react differently to the situation.

The better your child can adjust to the situation and bring their strengths to bear, the more successful they will be in life.

That makes life at school and later at work a lot easier.

Maybe you can start asking other questions at home. Ask your children what is good, what the teacher teaches, what the teacher expects from your child, what your child can do differently in order to better follow the lesson. How can your child make learning easier for themselves? The solution must also not mean that your child constantly hears that they are too lazy and that you bring pressure and stress into the subject of school.

You cannot change the teacher, but you can change your behavior and your focus.

Trust your children more so that they take on responsibility, reflect on themselves and find a solution to easily get through school or life and enjoy it.

Even on a small scale, get away from portraying teachers as bad teachers and blaming them and always complaining. Ask your children what it is, what it wants, which censorship it would like to write, how it imagines the lessons and how it can make life easier with the respective teacher. Why don't you ask your child what the teacher thinks about their homework.

Your children learn to listen differently, learn what is important to the teacher or other people around them.

Adjusting to other people is also an important skill that children and adults need throughout their lives.

We always believe that we judge things objectively and that our children also judge things objectively when they say that the teacher is to blame. Only it is not an objective assessment, but in most cases a structure. And the more often we say that the teacher is to blame, the politician is to blame, the doctor is to blame, my husband is to blame, it is a structure that ensures that we will do it more often in the future.

Then a habit develops, the habit of taking the role of victim and relinquishing responsibility.

The structure would be much better to ask: "What can I do now to change the situation, which is stupid for me, in order to achieve a different result?" And then to determine that something actually changes through my own other actions and ensures that you are happier and have an easier time.