How does a teacher scold a student

The reader question

My daughter's teacher openly expresses her bad mood and personal antipathies in class. She also occasionally insults students with expressions like "bum" or rhetorical questions like "How stupid are you?" This not only has a negative effect on the motivation of the students, the grades have also deteriorated. We parents hardly dare to complain - for fear that this could result in further disadvantages for the children. We have received no help from the school management with previous inquiries in the matter. What can we do?

The answer

"It can and must be tough," said the emeritus school pedagogy professor Hilbert Meyer about the constructive teacher-student relationship in the said - but he had no insults in mind. Defending yourself against teachers like this one can be complicated and tedious.

What a school principal says

"These are absolute no-gos what the colleague can afford," says the long-time rector of a Bavarian grammar school. From his own experience, however, he advises against contacting the school management directly. "Unfortunately, far too many parents come to me directly with their complaints without first trying to talk to the teacher in question. I generally block that and send people to the teacher with whom their child has a problem."

Often one can quickly find out in a consultation that the child's perception is possibly one-sided and the teacher has no problem with the student. But of course - and the rector knows that too - hardly any teacher will openly explain to parents during consultation hours: "Of course I described your child as a stupid bum!". Nevertheless, a personal conversation is always the first step. "If the teacher refuses to do this, it is a very clear indication that something is wrong," says the headmaster.

So if it turns out that the relationship between student and teacher is actually strained, the next level up is your turn. At grammar school or secondary school, that would be the class leader, who should act as an intermediary in the event of problems. He will address the teacher personally. If that doesn't help, you can contact a liaison teacher or the responsible level supervisor. Only if this does not improve anything should the complaint be communicated to the school management.

It is very surprising that there has not yet been any support for similar problems. The interviewed school principal has a clear opinion on this: "If the teacher does something wrong, I, as the superior, are obliged to get rid of it. And if he does everything right, there is no reason for the school management to hide away when there are complaints. "