How do you say i like you

When do you say “I love you” to your partner for the first time and why do you expect it without wanting to say it yourself?

Usually it goes to "I love you" in three steps: Soon you say to the exciting new person: "I like you." "I love you" is also easy to say. But then, when it comes to the three big words, you feel very small. The heart beats, the voice breaks and bangs, and the "You, I would like to tell you something" is followed by a harmless "I think it's nice with you".

In the average Hollywood Schmonzette, it takes less than 90 minutes for the main actors to look deeply into each other's eyes and breathe "I love you". Few of them do that fast in real life.

For some, the right time to make a confession of love is after a few meetings, for others it is months. Those who take their time often claim that the quick-sayers can't tell true love from being in love. They, in turn, like to say that the others are cowardly, uptight and would not want to commit themselves. There is something to both theses. Therefore, you can only recognize the right time for yourself. The good thing is: If you've had a fearful "I think it's nice with you" moment, there is usually another opportunity to express your feelings in the near future.

No matter how long you've been kissing, as long as no one has uttered the three words, it remains a fairly non-committal romance. An "I love you" obligation. Because love is a big, powerful word, is deep, lasting connection and not a fleeting feeling.

And so we all say to each other that it would be nice if the other person could first commit themselves and express that they not only find it at this moment, but generally very tolerable with us. The first declaration of love is therefore like a tiny marriage proposal and requires a lot of courage. Because by revealing our feelings, we also make ourselves vulnerable. A first "I love you" asks almost demanding: "You me too, right?" There is only one desired answer to this question. If it turns out differently, all the previous love-lightness is gone.

I would definitely advise you to trust yourself and tell the other what they mean to you. I still regret today that I was too cowardly to tell someone I loved very much. A bit of course, too, because at the time I would have liked to have received an answer to the intrinsic question. But mostly today because I wish he'd known.

The answer from Juliane Frisse, 24 years old, thinks that you can only win with a declaration of love.

Five tips for the right "I love you"

1. The right time is when you feel it. You can tell.

2. Then be brave and speak out. There is nothing to lose.

3. Too cowardly? Whisper in the ear. Without eye contact is easier.

4. Is it still stuck in your throat? Even when written down, the words keep their magic.

5. If the other person only replies "I really like you too", there are two possibilities: One is that he attaches such importance to the words that he is not ready yet. Or the other and not unlikely that his feelings are weaker than his own. It's painful - but the sooner you find out, the better.