How do you humbly say thank you

Humility: Those who make themselves small gain greatness

The humility is an enormously underestimated means of power. Hardly anyone expects that behind the revelation of weakness there could be an attempt at deception, which is only intended to lull the others. Often just serve public Self-humiliations (by rulers) only to raise their own status and assert claims to power. Because humility makes you unsuspecting, arouses sympathy - but above all it robs opponents of theirs Makes: You don't kick someone who is on the ground. Jesus in the Bible already knew about the effect of submission and prophesied in his Sermon on the Mount: "If someone hits you on the right cheek, turn your left cheek to him too ... and you will collect glowing coals on his head." Whoever submits, leads very often. Not just morally ...

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Definition: the power of humility

humility - what is that? The attitude is considered one of the Main virtues in many religions - not just in Christianity.

According to definition describes humility "the willingness to take something for granted, not to complain about it and to regard oneself as rather unimportant" (hence the saying: "bear something in humility" - not: humiliation bear. This is something else!).

The good thing about it: Humility can be learned. Accordingly, further properties, behaviors and behavior are hidden behind virtue Synonyms:

  • Humility
  • Frugality
  • moderation
  • satisfaction
  • Willingness to make sacrifices
  • Submissiveness
  • tolerance
  • Docility
  • indulgence
  • Devotion
  • dedication

The term itself goes back to Old High German diomuoti back. That means something like willing to serve to be. However, this also includes the word courage, which in turn shows: To Serve you also need a good dose of courage, dedication and self-conquest.

The opposite of humility

Humility often presupposes an imbalance, a status that the ancient Greeks and Romans did not, and rather, had a particularly positive connotation associated with slavery has been. This interpretation is changing. Understanding the Christian-Jewish tradition is about accepting that God is omnipotent.

According to Old Testament belief, humility is opposed to pride, the opposite. Arrogance also has many synonyms in general rated rather negatively become:

  • affectation
  • vanity
  • Snootiness
  • disrespect
  • Complacency
  • Overconfidence
  • Pompousness

The list of the few synonyms alone shows how little socially compatible Are people whose personality is largely dominated by this characteristic. That, in turn, makes collaboration difficult. Anyone who works as an employee can usually not do anything as they see fit.

And even as a self-employed person there will always be moments in which a certain Level of reluctance - maybe even diplomacy - is required. So humility is to be striven for to a certain extent - without this being meant to mean permanent self-humiliation.

True and false humility

Whereby one between true humility and the ostensible humility must distinguish.

The latter plays with (strategic) submission and is more of a form of hypocrisy - but no less effective.

There is also a wonderful historical event and Example from the Middle Ages:

The man was concerned with nothing less than the establishment of the diocese of Bamberg: Heinrich II. Loved the East Franconian city since childhood, he even gave it to his wife as a present, as a morning gift.

Since he was crowned King of East Franconia in July 1002, however, he was soon planning to establish his own diocese there - not least in order to finally Christianize the still pagan Slavs in the east of his empire.

Of course there was resistance, even from within the church itself and from Bishop Heinrich von Würzburg, who saw this threatened his own power. The king's power extended far, but not so far that he could simply decide over bishops. At the all-important church synod in 1007, he therefore used a trick: he humbled himself.

In front of the assembled members, Henry II threw himself flat on the floor and remained there until the archbishop helped him up in order to be able to open the assembly in the first place. Every time his opponents brought up good arguments on the matter, he threw himself at their feet again and thus increased the effect of his own - humble - reasons. The rhetoric of the adversaries fizzled out, the people only saw Heinrich's gesture of self-humiliation. In the end he got his diocese.

Even if you don't have to throw yourself on the ground today - politicians dominate the gesture of humility still inside out: Chancellor Angela Merkel declared even before taking office: “I want to serve Germany” and thus de facto demonstrated her power - to be able to serve no less than an entire people. Who can do that?

Karl-Theodor zu Guttenberg also apologized “humbly” after his plagiarism affair. And which politicians and managers no longer conjure up Moderation and modestywhen the spotlights are on secret greed?

Unfortunately, the difference between true and false humility is not always easy to see. It is a mistake to believe that real humility is shown by someone selfless acts or does not appear to be pursuing any personal interests. Moral superiority can also be a veritable and very egocentric interest.

True humility is therefore difficult to see. But if so, then humility is revealed in the fact that the truly humble person does not give his personal interests any special importance and does not act selectively: It is not about his (humble) behavior profile or literally take off and increase. One could also say: This humility is not expedient.

Narcissists in particular get sucked into humility

Arrogance can have dire consequences. It is not for nothing that it is said: Haughtiness comes before the event. Some know this and at the same time use them perfectly Power of humility for themselves. Do you know, for example Columbo? The dumb little TV inspector in the forever grubby trench coat?

The hair disheveled, the clothes wrinkled and definitely unfashionable, the Habit submissive, admiring, absent-minded - that's his trick! Especially when he goes on the hunt for criminals in the milieu of the rich and beautiful. He, too, is a great way to learn how to overcome arrogance through humility. Or just win by being underestimated.

Colombo aims to to be underestimated. After all, his opponents are anything but stupid - rather highly intelligent, professionally extremely successful, they enjoy a high reputation in society and usually have a waterproof alibi. This makes them practically unassailable and enormously proud of it.

There are Narcissistsas you can find just as numerous at work and in everyday life.

And exactly this pride is their weakness: Columbo consciously increases her arrogance. He praises her and admires her; he asks them for advice and lets them humiliate him, unchallenged. He mimes that for her Clumsyby looking for a crumpled note in his cluttered coat pockets or by holding his head and faking a flash of thought.

These are all gestures that Submissiveness document and lull the other person into safety: Look, I am not your equal opponent, you are in no danger from me ...

Think! What really happens is hidden from arrogant people.

Hardly anyone is easier to manipulate than a narcissist.

The inspector controls the game from the start. He lulls the perpetrators into safety and thus opens them up. Then he asks questions, a lot of questions, especially a lot of stupid ones. He leads the conversation, getting his victims to chat and say more than they should. And then, usually when he's already on the way through the door, he puts his Trick question. It surprises the villains, confuses them, and makes them deeply insecure.

There are well-measured needle pricks that Columbo uses, only to lull his delinquents further shortly afterwards. It is a Play with the power of humility. And it is by no means reserved for television inspectors.

Apply and use humility properly

Regardless of whether you have a lot or little power yourself: With dosed and targeted humility this can be inconspicuously increased or at least consolidated.

Just at the beginning of a career. Observe your environment closely: you will see how many people consciously or unconsciously use this strategy ...

  • Especially who is a Sun King and vain tyrants to the boss has, can play with the mesh perfectly (look) and score. There is no point in openly criticizing or warring such people. When in doubt, they pull their hierarchical trump card and, thanks to their status, dominate the group. They shield themselves and defend their prestige at all costs - because that is their favorite possession. Why not give these people what they need?

    Own pride to oppose it would be foolish, not least because it is the preliminary stage of the case and makes you manipulable yourself. So don't play the expert or the master who knows what to do with such people. Be smart and be an admiring student.
  • Being underestimated also opens up numerous options - at negotiations Just like with intrigue in companies: Make yourself small, ask questions, only pass on specific information and get your boss to demand the opposite of what he originally wanted from you. He will happily dance to your nose as long as he keeps the impression that he is swinging the baton to it.

From time to time, however, you should still let your true abilities flare up so that your colleagues can at least guess that you are miming the clumsy man. That needs Sure instinct, of course. You just want to make your boss and his courtiers insecure as to whether they may have been mistaken about you. Not more. Otherwise you can forget about the game: an alpha animal realizing how it has been manipulated can become very uncomfortable.

Quotes and sayings on humility

  • Do not always look for what is wrong with you, humility fill your soul, thanks fill your mind. All the flowers, all the little flowers, and even a boast among them, have blossomed for you too!Theodor Fontane
  • I have three treasures that I guard and cherish. One is love, the second is frugality, the third is humility.Laotse
  • Humility doesn't mean less of to think yourself. It means less at to think yourself.C.S. Lewis
  • With all humility and meekness, with patience. One earns the other in love.Ephesians 4: 2
  • Knowing fame, but maintaining humility: this is how one becomes the valley of the world.Laotse
  • Humility is the ability to look up to the smallest things in life.Albert Schweitzer

Tips: Here's How To Become More Humble

It was mentioned at the beginning: Humility can be learned. In an elbow society full of egomaniacs, one or the other might wonder why this is be desirable should. Especially since not everyone has a relationship to God and sees a relationship to his life today.

However, humility produces a number of positive traits that not only make the trickery of dealing with narcissists easier for you. Rather, it is about gaining a certain attitude towards life that Serving your wellbeing is. So humility is less about a dualistic relationship as in earlier times, but more about being in harmony with oneself.

  • Practice self-acceptance

    Those who do not love and accept themselves can hardly expect the same from others. Certainly there are things here and there that you would like to change in yourself - regardless of whether it is about character traits or perhaps physical characteristics such as unsportsmanlike conduct or obesity. Self-acceptance means that you still accept your strengths and weaknesses.

    Reflecting is expressly allowed, but it doesn't help to complain about the opportunities and opportunities that you have missed. Rather focus on the positive things: friends, family, strengths, job. The gaze is explicitly directed forward and self-acceptance only means that you are lovable despite these weaknesses. Changes are still possible.

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  • Show humility

    By being humble, you are demonstrating that it is not just about yourself, your own good and personal needs. Share recognition and attention with others, do not focus on yourself and refrain from showing off.

    In addition, you should learn to be happy about small things. It doesn't always have to be big, expensive, complex or special. Gratitude for the inconspicuous and everyday makes one more humble and increases humility.

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  • Show your appreciation

    Appreciation can show in many things. They consider gifts precious even if they are not entirely your taste. But you appreciate the person and the gesture behind it. They recognize the expertise of other colleagues and express their praise for it. Even so, you often have a nice word to say to someone, and you are friendly and courteous.

    Appreciation means not taking things for granted and knowing that they are finite. This opens up gratitude for one's own health, even if there are smaller meals. In addition to one's own finiteness, this suggests the thought of the future. The lack of respect for nature in past generations has contributed to great misery among many peoples and, not least, to climate change. More humility in the face of one's own inadequacies means recognizing, appreciating and, above all, improving the life and work of others.

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  • Show greatness

    Another quality also pays off in human interaction: forgiveness. Many people find it difficult when a loved one has done something that seems unforgivable. For example, when your partner has cheated on you, when a good friend has been caught lying, or something similar. There is often an insult behind this that is unhealthy in the long run. We keep revolving around the same incident instead of finally forgiving and forgetting. The fear behind this is often that one is approving the other's mistake.

    However, this should be clearly separated. Being able to forgive is true greatness because it requires a conscious process of reflection. Most important part: You put yourself in the shoes of the other person: How would I have acted in that moment? Could this mistake have happened to me too? In many cases, those who are honest with themselves come to the conclusion: Yes, that could have happened to me too. This knowledge is humility and helps you make peace with others.

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