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ENF / ENFPwith 16 relationship variants

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ENF in relation to ESD  //  ENFP in relation to ESTP


ESTP = ESD = E.xtraverted S.inner orientation with auxiliary function D.think

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function


Positive aspects

Both are energetic, spontaneous and move safely and easily in society.

They are friendly, inquisitive, and talkative. They like to talk about anything they can find. They are very sociable and spend a lot of time with their many friends and acquaintances.

They don't like to plan too far ahead and rarely feel bound by their plans. When an unexpected experience is tempting, they often leave everything behind in order to seize the opportunity.

They are adaptable and very tolerant. They take issues of order and cleanliness in their home with ease. They also rarely get into conflict with regard to the behavior of the other or who is in charge.

What the partner values ​​about ENF / ENFP:

ENF are creative, empathetic, considerate, very caring, and eager to please and be complacent.

What the partner values ​​about ESD / ESTP:

Funny, happy, easy-going, full of adventure.

ENF can with the help of the partner loosen up, enjoy the present moment; Listen to constructive criticism without feeling hurt.

ESD can be done with the help of the partnerBecome more sensitive, more genuine and more contemplative and express his or her feelings more openly.

The potential for frustration

ESD are extremely realistic and pragmatic, have an eye for specific details and a correspondingly good technical memory. You want to get firsthand experience and are skeptical about ideas and theories. You can give yourself fully to what you are experiencing at the moment, but do not like to deal with the future and become impatient with too much discussion.

ENF however, are highly imaginative and often very idealistic, can be a little abstract and indeterminate, and often make it difficult for their partners to follow their intricate lines of thought. You enjoy exploring future opportunities and looking for new and unique ways to solve existing problems.

ESD are good, objective observers, seem rather impersonal and are quickly at hand with objective criticism. They take up problems and conflicts with determination, sometimes vehemently. When upset or angry, they can get quite noisy, but quickly regain their calm demeanor. As a result, they often hurt their partner's feelings without wanting to or foreseeing it.

ENF tend to be more diplomatic and take care not to hurt the feelings of others. Because of the depth and intensity of their feelings, they are very sensitive to criticism, especially when their ideas and deep convictions are questioned. At first they withdraw offended, but soon try to restore harmony. Often times, even if they weren't responsible for creating the problem, they feel guilty and try to understand what went wrong.

ESD rather adhere to conservative values ​​and accept life and their partnerships as they are. The constant search of their partners for meaning and meaning is a waste of time and energy.
ENF long for a spiritual bond and would like to experience in their partner the ideal soul mate and contact person for their feelings. They don't realize they are one ESD-Partners are overwhelmed with it and feel abandoned.

Both love a casual life and do not like to deal with the organization of the household and daily routine tasks like paying bills or making and meeting appointments. Soon one of the partners will have to take care of the household, mostly it is the woman. A fair and honest division of labor can prevent the relationship from being endangered by open arguments or dogged resentment.

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Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

I have to stop criticizing. I will listen to your ideas without pointing out any alleged or actual errors.

I value you personally and especially your creativity. I want to show you in word and deed and support your need for artistic expression.

I want to make a conscious effort to be patient and careful in dealing with you and to pay attention to your needs with empathy.

I understand and respect it when you want to cultivate closer and deeper relationships with friends and family members.

I really appreciate it when you talk about your feelings because I know that it is difficult for you to convey your deep feelings directly. That's why I want to listen to you gratefully and supportively.

It is not easy for me to express my feelings either. That's why I want to show you my love with tenderness and caresses, which doesn't always have to be related to sex.

Dear ESD partner (ESTP)

I want to be clear, direct, and explicit, especially when there's something I want to change.

I have to make sure that I don't spend too much time on programs and thereby limit your free time.

I will try to participate in activities that you enjoy.

I want to show you my love and affection with a lot of physical contact, with back pats or body massages.

Maybe I should surprise you with a game or treats sometimes.

I also want to maintain our relationship by being happy to respond immediately if you want to have spontaneous love acts.

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ENFP in relation to ESFP


ESFP = IT F = E.xtraverted S.inner orientation with auxiliary function

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

Positive aspects

Both are energetic, enthusiastic, playful and carefree, have a natural talent for humor and fun and want to get as much out of life as possible. You are spontaneous, curious, resourceful and flexible and do not like to commit yourself to leave as many opportunities and options open to you as possible.

Both are sociable and talkative, approachable and friendly and have a very large circle of friends and acquaintances. You are generous, helpful, responsive to the feelings and needs of others, and are impulsive to help out a friend. They share their emotional life openly and cautiously with one another, including the vulnerable sides, and enjoy a warm emotional bond.

What the partner values ​​about ENF / ENFP:
Optimism, inexhaustible creativity, inventiveness; Ability to see new and interesting opportunities everywhere; Ability to grasp complex objects and see the deeper connections between them.

What the partner values ​​about ESF / ESFP:
Refreshingly uncomplicated, innocent, carefree; the ability to enjoy everything they do; the willingness to savor life to the full and also to take risks.

ENF can with the help of the partner loosen up, enjoy the present moment; worry less about potential problems; have more physical and sporting experiences and take more risks; Pay more attention to the details so that he / she makes fewer mistakes and remembers important steps in a process.

ESF can with the help of the partner look beyond the obvious and recognize the potential impact of his / her actions; Become more open to new ideas and keep an eye on the future.

The potential for frustration

IT F are extremely realistic and practice-oriented, concentrate on the concrete facts and have an excellent memory for the details and the exact sequence of experiences and experiences, especially in the human area.
ENF are highly imaginative and creative and always think primarily of the possibilities and what could be, while concrete facts and details often escape their attention.

IT F feel bored by the ENF's preference for abstract theories, consider their imaginative (in their eyes fantastic) ideas to be unrealistic and impracticable and object to the fact that ENFs are so vague and erratic in their thinking and speech and often stop in the middle of a sentence a new topic come up.
ENF often find that ESF are too long focused on the concrete, on unnecessary details and on the literal meaning, show too little interest in their ideas and future plans and quickly reveal factual errors.

IT F are more inclined than ENF to indulge in overly spontaneous pleasures and often appear reckless to their partners.
ENF are more likely than ESFs to be concerned about safety or health and are often viewed as overly pessimistic by their partners.

Both are inwardly emotion-oriented, appreciate and love one another, but also tend to react too personally to criticism and supposed rejection. When they get upset or angry, they tend to hold back their feelings and then it may take a while for them to calm down and come to terms with themselves. You would do well to consciously work through your problems before too much time passes and the gap between them becomes too great.

The emotional bond that the two of them care about can also be affected by the fact that they don't have enough quiet time for each other because of the many work or fun, or because they talk too much and listen too little to each other.

Both want to keep as many options open as possible and therefore postpone decisions, often so long that they miss opportunities or miss important appointments and appointments. In order to avert damage, at least one of the two has to take care of planning and financial management. The other then feels controlled and restricted, unless they come to terms with each other to avoid mutual frustration. Something similar can happen with housework, as nobody likes to tidy up and clean.

On the bulletin board:

Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

I am always impressed by your creativity and your eye for new possibilities and opportunities. I like to listen to you. However, I should resist the urge to say why I don't think the ideas are realistic and feasible. Rather, I should offer you cooperation in the implementation.

It's a shame that you talk about your feelings so seldom. I would like to participate more in your emotional life and would like to listen to you in an open and accepting way.

I am happy to listen to your specific topics and interests, even if they seem a little too abstract to me.

Your strong imagination often causes you to worry about the future. I will take your worries more seriously in the future and will not immediately say: "Don't worry unnecessarily!"

Dear ESF partner (ESFP)

I know and understand that my abstract nature sometimes bores you and seems aloof to you. I know your concrete and practice-oriented point of view and will try to be as concrete and realistic as possible in discussions with you. I also want to stop jumping from topic to topic quickly.

I will endeavor to deal carefully with facts and details, as well as income and expenses.

I will be more patient with your impulsiveness and also participate in some of the physical adventures and experiences that you enjoy.

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ENF in relation to EDS  //  ENFP in relation to ESTJ


ESTJ = EDS = E.xtraverted D.Environment orientation with auxiliary function S.inner sensation

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

Positive aspects

Both are sociable and have a wide circle of friends and acquaintances whom they cultivate intensively.

EDS and ENF are lively and energetic, talkative and expressive. They are in their element when they can discuss and laugh with one another.

What the partner values ​​about ENF / ENFP:
Warmth, sensitivity, joie de vivre, thirst for adventure. Life with an ENF partner is often a bit chaotic, but it is fun and quite entertaining.

What the partner values ​​about EDS / ESTJ:
Firmness, reliability, hard work. In an atmosphere of stability and trust, ENF feel that the partner will always be there for him or her.

ENF can with the help of the partner get a thicker skin, so doesn’t feel so easily hurt by criticism; can more easily make decisions that best serve his / her interests; is better able to organize himself and the environment and can now pay more attention to facts and details - which he / she has often overlooked in the past.

EDS can with the help of the partner Pay more attention to your own and other people's feelings, be less stubborn and demanding, and be more willing to try out new things.

The frustrations

Since both are extroverted, they enjoy moving on the stage of the outside world. But the way they do it is so radically different that frustrations run through their coexistence like a basso continuo.

EDS are sober, realistic practitioners who first collect and organize the facts, then think through and plan the processes logically and finally act decisively and rigorously carry out the matter.
ENF are fascinated by the abundance of possibilities that their lively imagination entices them to see, but whose realization requires well-trained talent and creative energy.
ENF can feel sabotaged by the partner's sobering skepticism. EDS may judge the other person's playful preoccupation with their fantasies with disdain.

ENF are emotional and sensitive and want to talk about their experiences and feelings, worries and frustrations. They want a patient and supportive listener who shows them appreciation and love and simply offers a sounding board without coming up with advice or suggestions for solutions.
EDS tries genuinely to be helpful to the partner, but believes that this can best be achieved by analyzing the problem and offering realistic possible solutions.
No wonder that they often talk past each other and have the frustrating feeling of not being understood.

ENF like to talk about their feelings, they can become elaborate and exuberant or get carried away by their excitement. But communication is always an indispensable means of coping with emotions for them. The partner's cool sobriety can be quite frustrating for them.
EDS like to hide their feelings because they fear that their unacknowledged vulnerability will come to light and because they do not want the clarity of their logical worldview to be clouded by emotional turbulence. As a result, they can be quick to overreact or feel pressured when they are pressured to talk about their feelings.

EDS resolve problems and conflicts resolutely in order to resolve them quickly and objectively. You get annoyed when your partner tries to evade the meeting and put off the meeting.
ENF primarily want to maintain or restore the desired harmony, are therefore cautious and diplomatic and consider uncompromising openness to be counterproductive. For partners, it can be very irritating, though ENF Appear upset or unhappy but not be clear about what they want differently.

EDS want quick decisions and clear decisions that are consistently adhered to.
ENF do not want their options and chances to be restricted by premature decisions.

EDS work hard to enjoy a neat and clean home. They get annoyed when their partner doesn't cooperate and leaves a mess.
ENF They like to live informally and comfortably and accept a certain amount of disorder in return. They do not see why they should let the Sisyphean work of tidying up and cleaning up deter them from interesting pursuits.

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Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

I like to listen to you when you have new ideas and see opportunities. I will not ask you about the feasibility right away and I will also hold back with criticism.

I like your imaginative and happy manner and enjoy that you bring so much fun into our relationship.

I find it stimulating that you enjoy reporting on your experiences and feelings, and I want to be an understanding and accepting listener to you. I will - although I do not really like it - tell you about my feelings, worries and fears.

I will not complain if you do not take it seriously with your share of the housework and will help if necessary. Of course, I prefer it when you do your part.

I won't mind you if you do things your way. I understand that not only are my methods of doing something right, but that there are other ways too.

I will not try to get you locked into my schedules and programs.

I appreciate you very much, but I should tell you this more often and should also tell you why.

Dear EDS partner (ESTJ)

When I discuss a problem with you, I will make sure that I am calm and clear, that I am not exaggerating and that I am not getting overly emotional.

I will prepare for such conversations and clarify the facts.

I will respect the traditions and rituals that are important to you.

I make a resolution to be more punctual and keep appointments.

I have to be more careful not to take criticism personally. I always want to remember that you want to help me, especially with your constructive suggestions.

I am grateful to you for the many ways in which you make life more pleasant and convenient for us. I want to tell you that more often and always point out something specific that you are doing to show your love.

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ENF in relation to EFS  //  ENFP in relation to ESFJ


ESFJ = EFS = E.xtraverted GefOcular orientation with auxiliary function S.inner sensation

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

Positive aspects

Both are energetic, active, sociable and sociable and fill their days with a variety of activities and contacts.

Both are very talkative, polite and diplomatic, have excellent communication and if they listen as extensively as they talk, they can find great satisfaction in the commonality of their experiences, experiences and worries.

Both are loving and empathetic, take a lively interest in everything that happens in the life of the partner, can be great lovers and maintain a harmonious relationship with close emotional ties. They often experience themselves as a team that is held together in everything that is important to them by well-coordinated convictions and commitments.

What the partner values ​​about ENF (ENFP):
Originality, gentleness, simplicity, optimism.

What the partner values ​​about EFS (ESFJ):
Organizational skills, common sense and an effort to be compliant.

ENF can with the help of the partner become more realistic, organized, and productive; learns to pay more attention to details and can thus better realize his / her innovative ideas.

EFS can with the help of the partner be more optimistic about the future, become more open to new ideas, more willing to take risks; can assert himself better; relies less on others to feel valued.

The potential for frustration

Both like to lead an extroverted life away from home, which often requires separate activities and contacts and can be very tiring. Your strong desire for emotional connection will motivate you to plan enough time for a confidential get-together.

Both are careful in their need for harmony not to hurt the feelings of the other. Therefore, they will avoid saying openly and honestly what they dislike. When unresolved conflicts and frustrations build up, everyone will react differently:
EFS will likely react with violent emotional outbursts and as a result hold on to resentment and not forgive the partner for a long time.
ENF will keep the hurt feelings to yourself, feel guilty, apologize, but then find that the partner shouldn't be so grumpy and unforgiving.

EFS are very traditional and conservative, are often skeptical of new ideas and want to leave everything as it always was, or to make long-term changes through quick decisions. Since they are convinced of the correctness of their decisions, they try to force their plans on their partner.
ENF are non-conformist, inquisitive and idealistic, love new possibilities and experiences, find repetitions boring and limitations oppressive. When they enthusiastically come up with new ideas and the EFS partner reacts to them with skepticism and practical reservations, they feel frustrated, discouraged and abandoned.

EFS attach great importance to order, punctuality and reliability. They want their home to be clean and tidy at all times, especially when there are visitors. They get annoyed when their partners are late, fail to keep promises and do not or only rarely do the housework.
ENF do not think that order is so important and do not want to spend too much time and effort in order to focus more on their hobbies and interests and to be able to chat more informally with visitors. They get annoyed when they are pushed to work harder and finish faster.

EFS handle money very carefully and want a family budget to be drawn up and adhered to.
ENF take it easy and often spontaneously spend money on needs of the moment.
Unless they have separate income and finances, it is best that each partner have a specific amount to spend that he or she is not accountable for.

On the bulletin board:

Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

You are so resourceful when it comes to finding creative innovations. I'll tell you this more often to show that I want to listen to your ideas in spite of my conservative attitude. I want to stop saying that and why these ideas won't work. I also offer you my support in implementing your unusual suggestions.

I make a resolution not to plan my time completely, but to plan more freely available time that we can both use together.

In the future I want to take my time and dates a little more relaxed and let things run their course more often.

It would be best if we agree a certain amount of time and pocket money for each of us.

Dear EFS partner (ESFJ)

I want to make it easier for you to go into new methods by giving some factual advice and explaining the possible benefits.

I want to listen to you more patiently in the future and get used to interrupting your thought processes.

If I want to change plans or invite guests, I will announce it to you in good time so that you can be prepared for it.

I am grateful to you for everything you do to make our home cozy and comfortable. I want to tell you this more often so that you don't get the impression that I just take it for granted.

I understand that this can only be believable for you if I help out more with the household without being asked to do so.

I finally want to respond to your request to pay more careful attention to the financial management, to stick to a budget and to note the expenses.

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ENF in relation to ENF


ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

The positive aspects

Both are very active, enterprising and sociable and have a large circle of friends and acquaintances. You often give and attend parties and enjoy introducing people to one another, including to maintain business relationships.

Both are open, curious and imaginative, are always looking for new ideas and opportunities and like to take part in brainstorming. They discuss the future a lot, look for all possible solutions to problems and support each other in making positive changes in their lives. They are non-conformist and humorous, often with a dash of disrespect.

Both are empathetic and strive to understand and be pleasing to one another. They are loving, gentle and affectionate partners, maintain a deep emotional bond and like to speak expressively about their feelings. They often have the same values ​​and help each other in their personal development.

You run a relaxed and somewhat playful household and agree on the most important educational issues. They are very helpful, especially when it comes to helping a friend quickly and spontaneously.

ENF can help each other

to become more assertive and to stand up for things that are important to them without paying too much attention to the feelings of others;
deal with conflicts more directly, honestly and constructively;
develop organizational skills;
Make routine processes more efficient;
to leave some things undone in order to better enjoy the present moment.

The potential for frustration

Both are so sociable and talkative that they often vie for who's the focus of attention.

Both put little emphasis on planning and consistent division. You are therefore quick to give up plans when something new, better or more interesting comes up.

Both are too impulsive and quickly get involved without reading the fine print, without planning sufficiently or making financial provisions.

Both strive for harmony so much that they avoid confrontations and open discussions on unpleasant topics. As a result, they often do not realize what is annoying or annoying to the partner.

Neither of them like the mundane everyday chores in the house and garden and postpone them until they absolutely have to be done. Often one of the partners is then forced to take care of these daily necessities, the family budget, the shopping, etc., with the result that he or she feels overly burdened and exploited.

On the bulletin board:

Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

I allow you a lot of freedom to look after your own interests, to get together with your friends alone, or to do something on your own. I want to keep it that way too.

Let us bring up problems, let us allow conflicts, let us say what we really feel and what we would like to have differently.

Let us also discuss matters of the heart, spiritual issues, and other areas of personal growth.

Let's try to get close again through funny little stories and curiosities once our relationships are strained.

Chores are just as tiresome for you as they are for me. Let's help out together or take turns doing boring tasks so they don't get stuck on one of us.

Let's look for specialists - accountants, tax advisors, cleaners, mechanics, gardeners - who will help us with certain tasks.

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EFN in relation to ENF


ENFJ = EFN = E.xtraverted GefOcular orientation with auxiliary function I.ntuition

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

Positive aspects

Both are very socially active (E) and also maintain many meaningful personal friendships.

Both are "idealists" (NF) according to David Keirsey, enthusiastic, confident and constantly looking for meaning in life.

N: They like to share their unique perspectives on future opportunities, world events and other people. They are eager to discover new and unusual sides with their partners.
The two of them have an unconventional lifestyle and are often deeply involved in spiritual matters.

F.: You are warm, loving and helpful and communicate in a sensitive and expressive way. They are very personal in everything they do and tackle, in their interactions and projects, and devote a lot of attention and energy to cultivating their relationship and deepening the bond with the partner.

What the partner values ​​about ENF (ENFP):

Humorous, warm-hearted, caring and creative, seldom let himself be deterred or discouraged by obstacles and shows a certain disrespect to authorities.

What the partner does about EFN (ENFJ) estimates:

Highly motivated, organized, often ambitious, expressive, warm-hearted, charming, anxious to do others good, to look after them and to support them.

ENF can with the help of the partner To become more selective, more organized and more productive in order not to get bogged down among too many projects. ENF can feel safe enough with the partner to communicate feelings.

EFN can with the help of the partner become more cheerful, relaxed and flexible; can step back and be less eager to please others; can really be himself or herself and does not mean to always be happy and helpful.

The potential for frustration

EFN with their judgment-oriented approach (eF) and ENF with their perception-oriented readiness to react (eN) have an opposing attitude towards organization, decision-making and completion.

EFN want things to be organized and done and are often annoyed by the ENF's unwillingness to commit.
ENF feel more comfortable when their options are kept open for as long as possible and feel pressured when they are pushed to make decisions before they have gathered enough information.

EFN After a conversation in which the ENF partner has discussed possible variants, they often assume that they have already made up their minds and confront him (them) with “But you said you would do that. " ENFwho was just looking for ideas and thinking out loud feels unfairly pinned down.

EFN want to live in a neat and clean environment and are forced to tidy up when there is a mess so that everything looks nice when unexpected visitors come. You cannot relax while there is still something to do.
ENF are not disturbed by clutter and things lying around. They need a lot of time for their many interests and projects and find routine chores to be unnecessary and restrictive.

EFN feel unjustly exploited and overloaded and become irritated and bitter. However, they want to avoid open confrontation and express their frustration in a passive-aggressive way with the aim of arousing feelings of guilt.
ENF sees the tense situation and disturbed harmony caused by the partner's obsession with cleanliness, the partner is angry and withdraws inwardly from the relationship.
Finally - and hopefully - come the two to the decision to discuss small irritations openly in the future before they build up and threaten to poison the atmosphere.

On the bulletin board:

Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

You have so many friendships and interests and you need them too. Please enjoy them and go after them. I grant you from the bottom of my heart. Also think a little about my interests and needs.

You have so many ideas. I like to listen to them and will figure out how they can work. You have had to be annoyed so many times when I said right away that and why it won't work. I want to change that.

If something is bothering me, I'll tell you if I think you can help me. I want to get rid of the habit of brushing small problems under the table so that they don't grow into bigger problems unnoticed. Nor do I want to put a good face on the bad game if there is reason to fear that frustrations will build up as a result.

I will no longer express so quickly and vehemently what I like and what I don't.

I take pride in having strong beliefs. But I want to hold back and not talk about it so much.

I find it so difficult to change plans. I want to take it easy and not get angry anymore if you want to do something different.

I want everything to be done as quickly and quickly as possible. From now on I'll be ready to drop something and do it later so I can join in if you suggest a spontaneous adventure.

Dear EFN partner, dear EFN partner (ENFJ)

I will actually finish more of the projects and work that I start.

You like to talk about your feelings and reactions. I will get into the habit of listening to you with understanding and support. In no way will I reject your feelings as unreasonable or dismiss them as overreactions.

I am now doing my fair share of the housework. Perhaps I also think more often about offering you my help in order to relieve you.

I have my problems with the money. I should be able to keep things tidy when it comes to money and also take care of our common property.

I won't change plans that often anymore, especially not at the last minute. If I want to (or have to) bring guests into the house, I'll let you know as soon as possible.

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ENF in relation to END


ENTP = END = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function D.think

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

Positive Aspects

Both are extroverted, active, cheerful and uncomplicated and want to experience as much as possible. They are very sociable, enjoy being in company, have good conversation with each other and others and have a lot of fun with each other and with others. Their humor is sometimes spiced with a dash of disrespect.

Both are curious, see opportunities everywhere, are creative, want to try new things and do not allow themselves to be distracted from the realization of their ideas by obstacles. They like to talk about their many ideas and innovations, and they enjoy inspiring each other's imaginations and imagining their future.

The Both feel drawn to each other because of their shared priority for extraverted intuition, experience an intimate, lustful, and powerful relationship, and consider each other to be best friends, partners, and lovers.

What the partner values ​​about ENF (ENFP):

Compassion, alertness, warmth.

What the partner values ​​about END (ENTP):

Confidence, calm logic; the ability to deal with rejection and criticism in a cool way.

ENF can with the help of the partner Resist the urge to please other people more easily and express his / her opinions honestly and with confidence.

END can with the help of the partner Develop more sensitivity and sincere compassion for people and feel more committed in important relationships.

The potential for frustration

Sometimes each of the two partners is so busy out and about that they prioritize other activities and people over their own relationship and not devote enough time to each other to relax and enjoy being together.

Their common priority for intuitive versatility can lead to both of them paying too little attention to facts and details, paying too little attention to structures and plans, and neglecting the mundane, boring everyday tasks. But after all, someone has to keep the household tidy and clean - mostly the woman - and will feel unduly burdened and treated unfairly.

The strongest frustrations usually result from the antithesis of the secondary function - thinking at END and feel at ENF.

END are ready to confront, critical and demanding and often quite blunt in their statements, and therefore often hurt the feelings of the ENF partner without wanting to.
ENF are deeply emotional and very sensitive, have a strong need for harmony and are not open at all costs, but rather diplomatic in their statements in order to avoid unnecessary confrontations.

END are sometimes frustrated with the extent to which their ENF partners take everything personally and feel hurt.
ENF often have the feeling that their emotional reactions and their need to be understood and supported are being judged disparagingly by the END partner.

Indeed you can ENFwhen they feel overwhelmed, often react excessively dramatically,
and END like to lead heated debates, which they value as a source of inspiration and energy.
But what at first appears to be a purely intellectual exercise can suddenly develop into a real argument with these two impulsive EN types.

END develop a lot of charm and understanding when dealing with people. But when decisions have to be made, they are primarily objective, logical and strategic.
ENF are guided in their decisions primarily by their deeply felt personal values.

These two extraverted intuition types understand each other well. But when it comes to the priorities of thinking or feeling, you have to keep looking for the conversation and talk to each other clearly, honestly, patiently and empathetically so that you can turn to the future and its possibilities with new energy and new optimism.

On the bulletin board:

Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

You have a lot of ideas and - unlike me - primarily adapt them to your emotional values. I want to listen to you patiently, even if your ideas sometimes seem illogical or disordered to me.

I am afraid of feelings and will try especially to accept your intense and deep feelings with patience.

I became aware of the typical difference between my sober way of thinking and your emotional engagement. That is why I can now better understand your desire to please and please others and to cultivate your many relationships and take them seriously.

Obviously, with my tendency to criticize, I very often hurt your feelings and give the impression that I do not appreciate you. So I'll mention something I appreciate before offering constructive criticism. It will be even better if I neglect criticism at all most of the time and concentrate on the positive.

I realize that I have to cut back on my friendships and international relationships a little in order to gain more time for you.

I will take more consideration that you can only enjoy sexual intimacy if I have tried first to maintain emotional connection and harmony.

Dear END partner (ENTP)

I will rethink my conversation style and be calmer and more open in our conversations, especially when we are discussing problems.

I value your competence and intelligence and am happy about your successes. But how can you know if I don't tell you

I feel like I should tell you more often that I accept it if you maintain friendships outside of our relationship in your sociability.

Sometimes it hurts me that you are so critical. But since I believe that you want to help me with constructive criticism, I will try to gain distance so that I can objectively assess when you want to help me.

Above all, I would like to turn to you more often in order to better recognize the logical consequences of my actions with your help.

Sometimes it happens to me that I make your ability appear questionable in public. This is unfair and I'll be more careful not to let this happen to me in the heat of the moment.

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ENF in relation to EDN


ENTJ = EDN = E.xtraverted D.Orientation with auxiliary function Intuition

ENFP = ENF = E.xtraverted I.nOrientation towards tuition with auxiliary function

The positive aspects

Both are extroverted, active, full of energy and pursue a wide range of interests and commitments. They are sociable, friendly, and talkative, and have many friends with whom they enjoy working, playing, sharing experiences and ideas. They have a sense of humor, are expressive, entertaining, and hilarious.

Both approach the future intuitively, effortlessly grasp possibilities and effects, discuss and enjoy dealing with politics and art. They understand each other well in their open worldview and often pursue their diverse passions together.

What the partner values ​​about ENF (ENFP):
Warmth, empathy, spontaneity; diverse insights. The partner feels lovingly cared for by ENF.

What the partner values ​​about EDN (ENTJ):
Strength, calm, leadership quality; Ambition, confidence.

ENF can with the help of the partner successfully realize his / her many good ideas; is encouraged to perform complex tasks; learns to step back, becomes more open to constructive criticism and no longer takes things so personally.

EDN can with the help of the partner share his / her feelings and thus deepen the emotional bond; can treat others more sensitively and with greater appreciation; can become more empathetic and patient.

The potential for frustration

What is difficult to unite in this couple is the contrast between thinking and feeling:

EDN are calm and cool, get to the bottom of things analytically and can only be convinced by logical arguments and considerations. In conflict situations, they take a step back in order to gain an overview, concentrate on what they recognize as fair, justify it logically and also accept hurting the feelings of others.

ENF are compassionate and understanding, and are particularly considerate of the impact on the people affected. In the event of a conflict, they react emotionally and personally, try to convince by appealing to feelings and put forward reasons that are sometimes illogical, but come from the heart.

EDN always want to prove to be competent and apply their rich, varied knowledge. They usually hold very specific opinions and usually don't care what others think of it.

ENF are always looking for meaning and harmony in their relationships and above all want to understand themselves and others. They are cautious and diplomatic in sharing their views and are reluctant to be pinpointed.

With these contradictions, it is often difficult for them to understand and respect one another.
EDN often find that the ENF partner is overreacting and trying to instill guilt.
ENF complain that the EDN partner is rejecting his or her feelings.

Another potential for conflict lies in the different need for order and planning.

EDN wants to organize everything with the help of extraverted thinking (eD), design it rationally and plan projects carefully and implement them efficiently.
ENF based on his extraverted intuition (eN), wants to keep fascinating new opportunities open and is therefore reluctant to commit himself to fixed plans.

EDN gets annoyed when ENF does not consistently pursue projects, but gives up as soon as new interesting opportunities and challenges emerge.
ENF gets annoyed when the inflexibility of the EDN partner tries to prevent him from seizing new fascinating opportunities.

The two can effectively cultivate their relationship if they clearly recognize their typological contrast, agree fair and understanding rules for discussion and always find times of confidential get-together in which they talk to each other, exchange their experiences and listen to each other respectfully without changing the other's views to want.

On the bulletin board:

Dear ENF partner, dear ENF partner (ENFP)

As a thinking type, I want to make an extra effort to respect your feelings, even if I sometimes don't share them.

I have to think through emotional matters for myself to make sense of them. Only then can I talk about it. I will ask you to be patient and not just keep silent.

I should tell you more often how much I value you and that I love you. Maybe I'll find it easier to write this down for you as a note or to express it in some other way.

I can more easily allow you to change your mind when I think of your intuitive thirst for knowledge and the responsiveness of your emotions. You have my consent if you pursue your interests and get together with friends even without me.

I realized that being right is more important to me than showing love and understanding. I want to change that.Maybe it will be easier for me to do this if I keep finding something where I can give in or back down.

Dear EDN partner, dear EDN partner (ENTJ)

I want to overcome my tendency to sugarcoat and not be completely honest and calmly and honestly show how I feel.

Sometimes I feel urged to tell others how much I value your achievements and successes.