Why did you choose your cat

Building a bond with the cat - this is how it works!

Cats are more popular than ever in German households. The joys of having a fluffy four-legged friend by your side are manifold. Every cat owner experiences the friendship with his kitty in a very individual way. However, mutual love and trust are inherent in all relationships and it is these characteristics that inspire lovers of small house tigers in particular. The common life and everyday life arise from a mutual feeling of affection and respect for the other. But the relationship does not always run smoothly from the start and sometimes even really disturbed relationships can arise. Here are a few tips to ensure that everything goes well for you and your velvet paw. You can pay attention to this if you have a new hangover in the house or if any problems arise later.

It all depends on the cat

Believe it or not, not only does every cat have its own character, but you can also ascribe basic characteristics to each species. You should find out about these in detail before you bring a cat home. For the success of your relationship, of course, the right temperament and the specific needs of the kitty are also decisive. These should definitely correspond with you, your lifestyle and also the conditions in your home. Because a cat who feels comfortable is also much easier to deal with.

For example, if you don't have a garden and or sufficient climbing opportunities in your home, then choosing a Norwegian Forest Cat could pose problems. These animals are still very close to their original wild form and therefore have a strongly developed hunting instinct. However, if your cat has no opportunities to hunt or climb, it can be stressful for him. That, in turn, will have a very negative impact on your relationship.

Another example are Siamese cats. These extremely social velvet paws usually always live together in groups, are very communicative, social and affectionate. However, they quickly get a feeling of loneliness when the Siamese have no conspecifics around them. This also creates stress and a bad starting point for your relationship.

Persian cats, on the other hand, are absolute relaxation animals. They love to just be to themselves and to laze around. But that doesn't mean they should be kept alone. In addition, they get along very well with people in general. However, these very fluffy specimens need daily grooming to avoid knots and ragging. This can be a very good way to build trust and create a strong bond with you. If you neglect the grooming, however, that will make the house tiger anything but satisfied and good to talk to you.

So always find out as much information as possible about the desired cat breed and also talk to friends and acquaintances about their experiences with these animals. In addition, it is of course important to get to know the specimen you want in detail before the cat moves in with you. This is particularly important with kitties from the animal shelter, because they have sometimes had traumatic experiences with people and therefore find it difficult to gain new trust. But they are also ready to give infinite love, should they first have an affectionate relationship with you.

A loving owner and the right home

As already mentioned, it is always essential that the given circumstances also meet the needs of the animals. With cats in particular, this can be a decisive factor in the success or failure of your relationship. You should also make sure to choose a kitty that fits your lifestyle. For example, being able to be alone often or not be disturbed by loud music. It is also extremely important that you make your home cat-friendly.

That means that you provide enough play and hiding places and offer your velvet paw enough places to retreat. Ideally, you get yourself two velvet paws so that there is no boredom and loneliness. Because a relaxed cat and a loving owner are the basis for building a solid, healthy bond. Give the little one a permanent place to sleep and a permanent place for the food and also a toilet, which in the best case even offers a bit of privacy. If everything is taken care of, you have already achieved an important part, because from now on the cat will understand you as its provider and itself as an important part of the community in your home. The little house tiger feels valued and respected.

Love comes from people

As with all social relationships, whether with humans or animals, the basis is trust. Now there are just a few more important behaviors to keep in mind. First of all, accept that affection must always come from the person. Only then does the cat respond with love, but this is often stunning and characterized by a deep trust. In order to maintain this in the long term, you should give your kitty one thing above all - and that is time. Sufficient attention and interaction, not only when cuddling, but also when playing and chasing around the house, guarantee a lasting, deep bond and the perception as a friend and companion. Sleeping together can also help, although people have had different experiences.

You should also give your cat the necessary time out if he is stressed or reacts aggressively, because often you do not do it better with well-intentioned cuddles, but only press them. Another thing that is of absolute importance is patience, because not only small kittens, but also large house tigers have no relation to material values.

So please react with patience and not with anger when your hangover spills the contents of the coffee cup over your keyboard or the like. The worst thing would be to hit him for it and react aggressively. If you want to live with an animal, then unfortunately you sometimes have to accept things and be a bit more careful with your things, then it works with your clumsy friend too.

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  1. I find it extremely critical to generally classify the individual keeping of Persians as okay.
    It is true that Persians are comparatively calm and, compared to forest cats, for example, have a lower urge to move, but under the fur there is a feeling, thinking and social cat that is just as happy to act, cuddle and communicate with its own kind the talkative Siamese cat. Persians and British also suffer from loneliness - they often only suffer in quiet depression and resignation, instead of expressing their displeasure.

    If you really only want to keep one cat, you should not choose your individual animal by breed, but rather look for a feline friend in animal welfare who has already been made a loner or who can make contact with conspecifics at least outside the house.

    Please don't use crap like this to encourage people to leave a cat alone on the sofa!

    1. Hello british bears,

      thank you for your hint. It was not actually meant that Persian cats should be kept alone, but that they like to have time for themselves (without their humans). But you are right that this can be misunderstood and that is why we have adjusted the text a little again.
      If you notice anything else, please let us know - we are always happy to receive feedback 🙂

      Best wishes,
      Your ZooRoyal team

  2. Hello, I have a question about my Bengal cat. She is 3 years old and had two kittens 8 weeks ago. After about 4 weeks she attacked my friend. I think that maybe he said something wrong to the babies or just behaved wrongly .. Since then she wants to attack him again and again. After I've protected him once, she wants to attack me too. We think she was also overwhelmed with the babies, so we gave the Sia to a friend so that she could relax a bit. For this she was also sterilized 2 weeks ago. She's been with a friend for 4 days. She is a totally relaxed cat to him, unfortunately not to us. What should I do..

    1. Hello Barbara,

      oh dear ... that doesn't sound nice at all. We can understand that you want to find a solution to the problem quickly. Patience is required here. But patience alone is not enough. Your cat already seems to associate you with something negative - so nothing should go wrong here from now on. First of all, a thorough analysis of your situation on site and good advice on how to proceed is important. You should therefore ask for advice from an expert cat behavior consultant immediately.

      We keep our fingers crossed for you that you will find someone as soon as possible and that your Sia will soon gain confidence again.

      Best wishes
      your ZooRoyal team

  3. Hello,
    I have had experience with keeping cats for over 30 years. I had a very special bond with the last one and didn't really want to fetch any more cats after her death; because it was very bad for me to let her go!
    After a few weeks of mourning, however, I realized that I couldn't do without and for six weeks now I have had two of these souls in my house again. I got her from a nursing home. The little girl (8 months) is very scared and still cannot be touched. She was rescued from an emigrant farm by animal rights activists. The tomcat (2 years) comes from a Messi household, was quite ill and has now woken up to his “full bloom” with me! He is very nice and cuddly and has already "adopted" the little one before we took them in.
    But that is exactly the problem. Somehow I can't get access to her. She is so shy and immediately runs away when I approach. She seems to be particularly afraid of her hands. If these are hidden under a blanket, for example, she even lays down next to the cat on the couch with me. She also takes a piece of sausage from her hand, but immediately runs away with it and eats it two meters away.
    Do you have any tips for me on how I can get access to it?

    1. Hello Conny,
      Thank you for sharing your story with us.
      Unfortunately, we can only assess the behavior of your cats very poorly from a distance. We therefore advise you to contact a cat behavior therapist in your area. Only a local expert can correctly assess your cats' behavior. You can find out how this can currently take place despite contact blocking in our article: Cat behavior advice with contact blocking.
      We hope that your cats will get better soon and we keep our paws pressed.
      Animal greetings,
      your ZooRoyal team